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#1
Apr 22, 2014, 06:58 PM
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I know this has come up before in a thread, but I was just curious again as to how people felt.
Today after session, my T gave me the invoice. She wrote it out in front of me, and asked how I wanted to pay from here on out. Every week, once a month, once every two months, etc. At first I knew that I had to pay and that this was a service, but afterwards when I got into my car I felt so discouraged and kind of down about it. As much as I know it's a service, it still kind of hurts to know that I'm paying for her to listen. Surely I'm not the only one who thinks about this, but do others feel the same? And have you talked to T about if? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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Apr 22, 2014, 07:10 PM
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Uh yeah, it';s a job. Otherwise you would call your friends and complain to them and hope for them to help you.
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Apr 22, 2014, 07:15 PM
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Even my Hero-T gets paid to come and see me. And I pay her with very huge gratitude. I am not paying for her to care about me, I don't pay her for her compassion or love. I pay her because she deserves to be paid for her time and her effort and her wisdom and for what she has done for me. I have never felt like a job, even though I pay her a lot of money. And I know she doesn't see me as a job either but has to pay her bills.
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Apr 22, 2014, 07:16 PM
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Paying/job is what keeps me safe from the therapist. I find paying to be the thing that keeps her back. She has no stake in me or expectation of obligation other than that I pay her for the appointment time. Once paid, I have no further obligation. So for me, it is a good thing.
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Apr 22, 2014, 07:21 PM
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I was more in control when I paid. It allowed me to keep the therapist at arm's length. It was a nice crisp reminder that I was work, at the end of the session.
Not paying has been a crazy madness. It means having to swallow the fact I'm a charity case whenever I sit down and think about why she is doing this for me. Still very grateful she does it but nobody wants to be a charitable cause.
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Apr 22, 2014, 07:27 PM
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I agree with everyone who answered. I do feel that I'm keeping her at arms length when I do, and I do pay her for her gratitude, kindness, etc. I think it just effects me in that it reminds me that I am essentially paying for someone to listen, so-to-speak. I do know I am paying for her skills, but in some way it makes the relationship feel less real. Even though I know it wasn't "real" to begin with.
I don't know if I'm making sense. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
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