[AnIslandNeverCries]

I'm just wondering about what and how much do you tell to the therapist? Guess I'm just worried I told too much because I think I got mine concerned and am really worried she will talk to the doc. I don't want that to happen, but want to be honest cause she's the only one I can talk to and tell things I can't tell anyone else. I've never been in therapy before but I think she is good and wants to help me, but I'm worried I said too much.

[Mike_J]

I tell my therapist everything.

[Petra5ed]

I think deep down we are all liars. We being all people. We're all walking around in huge denial of our true motivations, just IMO. I try to push the envelope on how honest I am with my T, but more importantly with myself. Those same worries come up, like you said that maybe I shared too much. Usually I will even say "I'm not saying this because I believe it's good." I think T's have heard a lot and they can probably sense a lot, so to some degree being honest probably makes you look better actually. If you're worried about her talking to your doc have you signed a disclosure authorization? She will need your written permission in most countries. You can also revoke it I think if you gave one previously.

[bixkf]

I too have told my therapist everything. I find once I get comfortable and on a bit of a roll, I just can't shut up. I've told her things that I've never, ever, ever told another person, including my spouse. Sometimes I say something, then say "WTF, did I actually admit that?"

[gayleggg]

I told my therapist everything. There was a period she helped stay alive because I was truthful. Once I was truthful with her she was able to help me tremdously.

[Freewilled]

I don't think it's possible for me to tell him everything - but I try to be as open as possible. Especially with whatever has been taking up a lot of my thoughts during the week.

[nottrustin]

I try to be completely honest with T. I have told her MANY things I wouldn't tell anybody else. However, sometimes fear and insecurities get in the way of being completely honest.

I try my best to tell all. However I realized I stopped at some point when I lost trust in my last one. It's really hard to tell anyone, even your therapist, every thing about you when you feel and know they're going to run and tell the next person.

That's just me, though, since she actually did. However not all therapists are like her, so I still have faith.

[healed84]

I think at this point I have told T everything that would be important to my therapy..

[monkeybrains21]

i tell T things when she asks but i answer her questions and thats it usually. sometimes she doesnt ask the right questions. i do believe last week was an issue though. i could have sworn she saw my scars, in fact i thought i showed her when we first met. she seemed genuinely shocked, concerned and i dont know what else last week. now i am worried about her reaction. i have no idea what ill walk into on weds and now im really worried

[coolibrarian]

I tell her everything, even if it seems trivial or boring. If it enters my head and I've thought about it, I share that with her. If you're worried you've "said too much," don't worry: they've heard it all.

[Leah123]

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

I think deep down we are all liars. We being all people. We're all walking around in huge denial of our true motivations, just IMO. I try to push the envelope on how honest I am with my T, but more importantly with myself. Those same worries come up, like you said that maybe I shared too much. Usually I will even say "I'm not saying this because I believe it's good." I think T's have heard a lot and they can probably sense a lot, so to some degree being honest probably makes you look better actually. If you're worried about her talking to your doc have you signed a disclosure authorization? She will need your written permission in most countries. You can also revoke it I think if you gave one previously.

Deep down, I am not a liar. On the surface, not a liar either. Honesty is a prime virtue for me and I work hard at it and at self-awareness so I'm clear on my motivations and act on them as best I can in a helpful way.

I tell my therapist everything. On rare occasion I have told her I would answer a question later, or talk about a topic later, but I don't hide anything from her. I do that because I believe it's helpful in therapy but also because I know there's a lot of power in being able to be consistently honest, and open. I will say it took a little time to be able to tell her absolutely everything: I didn't just start that first session and tell her my most troublesome fantasies or my deepest insecurities. It was definitely a matter of us building trust, didn't happen overnight.

[AnIslandNeverCries]

Originally Posted by Petra5ed

I think deep down we are all liars. We being all people. We're all walking around in huge denial of our true motivations, just IMO. I try to push the envelope on how honest I am with my T, but more importantly with myself. Those same worries come up, like you said that maybe I shared too much. Usually I will even say "I'm not saying this because I believe it's good." I think T's have heard a lot and they can probably sense a lot, so to some degree being honest probably makes you look better actually. If you're worried about her talking to your doc have you signed a disclosure authorization? She will need your written permission in most countries. You can also revoke it I think if you gave one previously.

Yes I did sign something giving permission to talk to the doc. Idk I wasn't worrying much about that when I signed it. I never did therapy before and didn't give that stuff alot of thought. Over time I've been able to open up. She seems to be good at asking me the right questions. She's the only one I have to confide in all the difficult things I can't or won't tell anyone else.

[Victoria'smom]

Everything

[Petra5ed]

Originally Posted by Leah123

Deep down, I am not a liar. On the surface, not a liar either. Honesty is a prime virtue for me and I work hard at it and at self-awareness so I'm clear on my motivations and act on them as best I can in a helpful way.

Liar was a bad choice of words. What I meant was we are all affected by unconscious motivations, thoughts, beliefs etc. I suppose lie implies you know it's not true but keep saying it anyways, but what I meant was getting to the truth is like peeling an onion, just like knowing yourself, or enlightenment whatever.

I too tell my t everythng, and i do mean everything.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by AnIslandNeverCries

because I think I got mine concerned and am really worried she will talk to the doc

What is your fantasy that will happen because of this? I see you signed consent for the two to talk, they are your advisers, it makes sense they would discuss how each feels you are doing, etc.

[HALLIEBETH87]

everything

[withoutthelove_]

I tell mine everything I think is important or is worrying me or getting me down; she's like my best friend in a way that I know if I come to her with a problem, she can help.
We've never discussed anything in terms of romantic relationships, sexuality, etc. but I'd tell her anything if it came up.

Actually, in one session I showed her a pamphlet that said anorexia was a way of hiding from your sexuality, and she raised her eyebrows at me and said, "hmm, something you want to tell me?"