[SilentGirl808]

I'm addicted to e-mails. I can't help wanting to keep e-mailing my therapist, I e-mail him everyday - or almost everyday. He said he doesn't care that I e-mail him, but I feel like I want to keep in touch with him all the time. I don't like the idea of him being with other clients and I want him all to myself, which may sound selfish. If it's been awhile that he hasn't e-mail me back, I tend to take it personally and get easily hurt inside, and then I get a little jealous.

[Elektra_]

hi. IMO he should have boundaries. that isnt healthy for u. tc

[msxyz]

I email my therapist all the time,too, and he doesn't mind. I am not jealous of his other clients though, if I was you I would tell him that.

[HazelGirl]

The emailing itself isn't bad. But have you talked to your T about the jealousy you feel or the reasons you keep emailing him a lot?

Sounds like you need to discuss this, particularly the jealousy issues and how you take it when he doesn't reply quickly enough for you. Seems like the email issue isn't terribly helpful to you but is creating more problems at this point.

[SilentGirl808]

Originally Posted by HazelGirl

The emailing itself isn't bad. But have you talked to your T about the jealousy you feel or the reasons you keep emailing him a lot?

I've told him before the reasons I keep e-mailing him a lot, but I haven't told him the fact that I get jealous.

[HazelGirl]

Originally Posted by SilentGirl808

I've told him before the reasons I keep e-mailing him a lot, but I haven't told him the fact that I get jealous.

I say the best thing you can do for yourself is to talk about how jealous you feel and why. I know that's scary, but it is important because it will help you and him to figure out why, and will help him know how to best help you.

[Wren_]

I say the best thing you can do for yourself is to talk about how jealous you feel and why. I know that's scary, but it is important because it will help you and him to figure out why, and will help him know how to best help you.

I was thinking similar things to what hazel girl has written here ... sharing about jealousy can be hard but it can also be helpful

[dark_sweetie]

I feel that jealousy too. I think it is common but I haven't talked about it either. I hate when T talks about other clients or I end up chatting with them in the waiting room..it is not my most major issue but i agree the only way to grow is to talk about it. You can do it!

[AllyIsHopeful]

This is a big reason I am against T's allowing email communication beyond appointment scheduling...It seems more people than not, get hurt and feel anguish related to some type of email issue. I'm sure he would change the rules a bit if he knew how distressing this is for you...or at the very least he would want to work through it with you.

I agree with HazelGirl. This could be very therapeutic if you are able to work through this with him and figure out where these jealous feelings really come from.