[nevertheless002]

Hello guys,

so I was wondering as a client you may have various thoughts, impressions about what your T's motives, thoughts and signals mean to you (sort of hurts sometimes in a way, or puts you into stress or alarm, suspense)... especially when you start up with your T and you dont know him or you experience negative transference... that kinda hinders the process...

...what happens if the client in some way, consciously, well rather unconsciously happens to send some negative signal, message (say something particular that may come out negative on Ts side, not knowing it would[unconsciously])to their T that may actually hurt their bond...
... or maybe some personality traits or other stuff that your T may DISLIKE...

you know some latent things going on that your T conceals.... I dont mean any direct impulsive threats or such...

Is it a possible situation?
Have this already happened to any of you guys? (or Ts are addressed aswell, would be great to hear their opinion) If so could you notice it, did the T bring it up later on?
Do you think that if such thing happens that the T may actually feel "blocked" in the helping process, personally towards you?? Or what does the T do?

sorry for my english and if I happen to get some answers, rlly GREATEFUL for that, THANX

[dark_sweetie]

I think I hurt my T a while ago... well it wasn't even exactly my fault but

Now I can tell she hates my boyfriend but I just felt like she hated me when it came up, because I can't handle her being terse and I just felt soooo guilty. But I blame myself for everything :x actually talking about this in next session, wish me luck.

It definitely can happen... Ts are human too.

And she didn't come out and say she was hurt. But I know she was and couldn't say that.

[HazelGirl]

Anything is possible.

However, T's are trained to give "unconditional positive regard", which means they see clients positively even if they are doing something difficult. If a T is struggling with liking a client, they will often know that relatively quickly in the relationship and will refer the client to a different T.

[melania]

Yeah, I hurted my t by cutting myself, he told me how he felt and I felt so guilty about it

[tinyrabbit]

Great question. I know I sometimes hurt my T as I can be quite abrasive and he says it does get to him sometimes as he is human. However, he also says it's fine for me to come in and hurt him, that he is willing to be hurt and I'm not responsible for what happens in therapy.

As to disliking you... My T has promised that if he ever finds he dislikes me he will explore with me why that is rather than abandoning me.

[tinyrabbit]

Oh and in my view negative transference doesn't hinder the process - it's part of the process.

[RTerroni]

I think that I sort of hurt a prior Therapist of mine when I went to look at her LinkedIn page without asking her.

[Victoria'smom]

I have no doubt I hurt her repetitively early on.

[tinyrabbit]

Originally Posted by RTerroni

I think that I sort of hurt a prior Therapist of mine when I went to look at her LinkedIn page without asking her.

If your T makes her page publicly available and clients look at it, that's her responsibility.

[RTerroni]

Originally Posted by tinyrabbit

If your T makes her page publicly available and clients look at it, that's her responsibility.

I know, that's exactly what I thought.