[GenCat]

Because I think when people say, im here to help you, that means im here to ask you why you do this or why you think this or that way? Im here to judge, but not judge you. Im here to care for you, but not care outside of office. Im here when you need me, Im here only at certain times and not during my personal time. I am your friend, but we cant be friends. I say F*** therapy, therapists, pdocs, hospitals! people who say they care.

[TheWell]

Sounds like things have been rough lately
I hope you are okay.

[Perna]

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We all have to learn to take care of ourselves. That is one of the best things I learned in therapy. Part of the learning is watching how T's and others we respect around us do things and copying them, just as we copied the good/bad lessons taught by our parents.

[kororain]

I think the stuff you listed can be true of "real life" friends though too. I don't call my real life friends in the middle of the night if I'm upset. I handle it. I might talk when I see them again, or give a call the next day, but there are still boundaries. Just because T has boundaries, doesn't mean she doesn't care.

[The_little_didgee]

My first round of therapy did not work out, because I was misdiagnosed. All the explanations I was given for my "symptoms" and troubles did not apply to me. I regularly contested them and as a result I was summed up as being difficult and treatment resistant. This prevented the formation of a therapeutic alliance. It got so bad, I quit and stayed out of therapy for years. When I returned, the experience was entirely different. The right diagnosis helped me along with years of emotional growth.

If I were you, I wouldn't give up just yet. Maybe you need a break to figure out what you want from therapy.

Our expectations in the therapeutic relationship can make it "wonky" as my therapist says. I have really lowered mine and it works well. I see her as a consultant, not a friend or primary caregiver, that I can discuss things with.

P.S. Hospitals don't give a ****.

[precaryous]

Gen, you can find the right T to help you. I was still seeing abusiveT when I started going to PrevGoodT. She helped me untangle myself from him.

[Aloneandafraid]

I so relate to this geneCat. It hurts so much, doesn't it. Take good care of yourself. You will get through this time.
Thank you for sharing. You are not alone. Xx

[GenCat]

Originally Posted by precaryous

Gen, you can find the right T to help you. I was still seeing abusiveT when I started going to PrevGoodT. She helped me untangle myself from him.

I have spoken to another T, and she told me twice I needed to go to the ER!! Because im not in a "good place". Well HELLO, if that's the case, id be in there every day... My plan is to take a break from everything, focus on school and work and making money. Besides I have no one in my life I feel I can be myself, or depend on them 24/7...besides myself. So I guess I need to work on trusting myself and paying attention to my feelings and to find out what I want in life and how I can be happy.

[lostin08]

Originally Posted by GenCat

I have spoken to another T, and she told me twice I needed to go to the ER!! Because im not in a "good place". Well HELLO, if that's the case, id be in there every day... My plan is to take a break from everything, focus on school and work and making money. Besides I have no one in my life I feel I can be myself, or depend on them 24/7...besides myself. So I guess I need to work on trusting myself and paying attention to my feelings and to find out what I want in life and how I can be happy.

Damn this made me cry. I would be 10 feet under without my T there are great ones keep looking

[precaryous]

I'm glad you're not seeing that one T...even if it is for a break. You may get a fresh perspective outside of her influence. I hope you decide not to go back to her. But I know, that's your decision.

Been there. It doesn't go anyplace good or healthy.

[bounceback]

Originally Posted by GenCat

Because I think when people say, im here to help you, that means im here to ask you why you do this or why you think this or that way? Im here to judge, but not judge you. Im here to care for you, but not care outside of office. Im here when you need me, Im here only at certain times and not during my personal time. I am your friend, but we cant be friends. I say F*** therapy, therapists, pdocs, hospitals! people who say they care.

I relate to this so much. It is exactly how I feel anymore. You are not alone.