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#1
Jul 18, 2014, 11:47 PM
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I think it's time to talk about CSA with T. I think I'm going to end up divorced.
 Is it worth it? Does it get better? Will everything be ok? Is there a point? |
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#2
Jul 19, 2014, 12:27 AM
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Talking about CSa with your t will cause you a divorce
I'm not asking you to disclose , but I can't see why, Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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#3
Jul 19, 2014, 12:34 AM
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I think Sweepy meant "will not cause a divorce". And I agree. I don't see how it would cause you to get divorced.
I know it's scary. But eventually you will come out on the other side.
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Jul 19, 2014, 07:18 AM
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It's time...
Talk to your T.... Trust him/her.... Good luck. |
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#5
Jul 19, 2014, 07:34 AM
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Sadly, the road to healing does sometimes pass through divorce.
Do you have any specific reason to suspect that divorce lies in your future?
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Jul 19, 2014, 12:19 PM
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In therapy I am just starting with the reliving of my childhood. I became a completely different person in that office on Thursday when it started. I sat sideways, with my legs crossed, on the couch. I did not face her, and had my hair covering my face. It was a very intense session. I have felt a bit numb ever since. I see her again on Monday. For some strange reason, I all of a sudden have a strong urge to go get a tattoo. LOL. I don't self harm, and haven't for a long time, but jeez....it would take the numbness away, to feel something, and it's something I've been wanting to do anyway. I may just see if I can get in....lol
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#7
Jul 19, 2014, 12:39 PM
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I did end up divorcing when I did the hardest processing of csa memories. My ex husband had unresolved issues of his own from his father abusing his mother and sister, but sparing him because he was the son. He couldn't support me during trauma work, and resented that I was reminding him of things he didn't want to deal with. Also, honestly, it was hard to be a wife and partner when going through the worst PTSD could throw at me.
It can happen, but it won't necessarily happen. I do think it was worth it in the end. Getting a t for your husband, if he's willing, might help. |
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#8
Jul 19, 2014, 01:49 PM
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Kororain... just want to offer some support, I don't have any good words of advice. If you're starting to feel like it's time, that's a good sign that you might be ready to start exploring it with your T. Go as slow as you need to, and be gentle with yourself please.. ok? *hugs*
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Jul 19, 2014, 02:04 PM
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#10
Jul 19, 2014, 04:31 PM
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I feel like my husband maybe raped me. Thinking about CSA makes me think about it. Makes me think decisions have to be made.
Thank you for the responses. It's hard for me to talk about this... so I might not reply much more about it. |
| CameraObscura, CantExplain, guilloche, tametc
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#11
Jul 19, 2014, 04:50 PM
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It's hard to contemplate the end of a marriage, even if you know it's not healthy or ever has any chance of becoming healthy Not the same situation for me but I find myself here too.
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#12
Jul 19, 2014, 06:51 PM
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Quote:
Maybe it's for your good then. I am sorry.
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#13
Jul 19, 2014, 09:46 PM
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(((Kororain))) - I'm so sorry
... I can't imagine how hard it is to have to deal with that on top of the childhood abuse. I hope your T is wonderful and supportive, and that you can bring this to them...
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