Ever stumped your T?

iheartjacques · Jul 21, 2014 at 02:18 AM

Mine was asking me why I wanted a relationship with my husband's family. I said why not?
He sort of mouthed a bit and changed the subject ha ha

maykins · Jul 21, 2014 at 02:45 AM

This is kind of out of context? Was there any particular reason you wouldn't...?

iheartjacques · Jul 21, 2014 at 04:07 AM

Nope. Just asking if anyone ever stumped a T with their answer to a silly question.

stopdog · Jul 21, 2014 at 04:54 AM

Constantly.

OneWorld · Jul 21, 2014 at 08:46 AM

Every week.

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HazelGirl · Jul 21, 2014 at 08:50 AM

I don't recall. Probably, though she probably also hides it well.

ThisWayOut · Jul 21, 2014 at 08:54 AM

I've seen a lot of students, so I stump them often... but they do come back later having learned something and phasing that on.

unaluna · Jul 21, 2014 at 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by iheartjacques

Mine was asking me why I wanted a relationship with my husband's family. I said why not?
He sort of mouthed a bit and changed the subject ha ha

I hate when they do that. The answer is grandparents? Aunts and uncles? Cousins? Holidays and celebrations? You know, normal stuff?? Of course, if h's family isnt normal, then youre stuffed. But its a dumb question, imo.

anilam · Jul 21, 2014 at 09:10 AM

Yes, often enough.
Just today I was explaining how I would like to have a BF but the RS would have to be without any sex and he quipped so like being married for many years and I said: "Aren't you over-sharing?" (he has been married for ages).

Tried to translate it as better as I could, just doesn't seem natural in English.Oh well, you get the gist...

NowhereUSA · Jul 21, 2014 at 09:11 AM

yes. i'm a tough case. i do the right things and i don't get better. still, he is supportive.

Jul 21, 2014 at 10:29 AM

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Originally Posted by iheartjacques

Mine was asking me why I wanted a relationship with my husband's family. I said why not?
He sort of mouthed a bit and changed the subject ha ha

No I've never stumped T, but what does it prove? I prefer to engage and look at why rather than play 'one upmanship'.

ScarletPimpernel · Jul 21, 2014 at 01:20 PM

My T asked me one session to define "okay". That stumped me. So at the end of the session, she asked if I was going to be safe. I then asked her to define "safe". She sat there trying to figure out how to define it...lol Touché!

freefallin · Jul 21, 2014 at 02:16 PM

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yes. i'm a tough case. i do the right things and i don't get better. still, he is supportive.

This describes my situation pretty accurately as well. In my case, this is a large part of why I have yet to ever find therapy helpful. I already know what I'm "supposed" to be doing. It just doesn't work because my life never seems to work. So when I was in therapy, it largely consisted of me paying someone to tell me stuff I already knew years ago. I always left thinking, "I just paid someone to tell me THAT? I could have read the same thing on Google. In fact, I *have* read the same thing on Google." I think the therapists get frustrated too, then, because they run out of tools to use on me pretty quickly, kind of like when you go to the doctor for chest pain that turns out to have no obvious answer or solution. At first, the doctor is eager to try out a bunch of tests to figure out what's wrong and how to fix it. Then after a while, when the tests come back negative and their usual treatment methods fail, you become an annoyance of a patient if you keep coming back.

OneWorld · Jul 21, 2014 at 02:21 PM

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No I've never stumped T, but what does it prove? I prefer to engage and look at why rather than play 'one upmanship'.

When I say I stump my T, it's not something I intentionally do to 'catch' her ... It's just that I don't seem to fit into a specific protocol.

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iheartjacques · Jul 21, 2014 at 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by _Mouse

No I've never stumped T, but what does it prove? I prefer to engage and look at why rather than play 'one upmanship'.

It wasn't about oneupmanship. Isn't "why not" a reasonable answer to having a relationship with family members? I just thought it was a strange question.

InRealLife45 · Jul 22, 2014 at 03:19 AM

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Originally Posted by iheartjacques

Mine was asking me why I wanted a relationship with my husband's family. I said why not?
He sort of mouthed a bit and changed the subject ha ha

i think my very existence stumps my t

Ford Puma · Jul 22, 2014 at 04:16 AM

I cant be sure, when my T gets caught in a moment she just goes in to silent mode.

Mind you it might give me a laugh later if she ever became tongue tied.

JaneC · Jul 22, 2014 at 04:39 AM

Yep....and it was funny! One day he didn't want to answer one of my questions(i think he wanted me to do it for myself of course) and asked me another question instead, i was a bit irked.... so I asked him why he always answered my q's with a q, and he responded with another question(and a bit of a grin) and so it went on for another 3 or 4rounds of each of us answering with q's. Him bursting out laughing after I said I could go on and on........ and

He caved and responded!

He doesn't fall for that anymore............

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iheartjacques Magnate Member Since Apr 2014 Location: world Posts: 2,162 10 350 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 02:18 AM #1 Mine was asking me why I wanted a relationship with my husband's family. I said why not? He sort of mouthed a bit and changed the subject ha ha
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maykins Member Member Since Jun 2013 Posts: 87 11 20 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 02:45 AM #2 This is kind of out of context? Was there any particular reason you wouldn't...?
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iheartjacques Magnate Member Since Apr 2014 Location: world Posts: 2,162 10 350 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 04:07 AM #3 Nope. Just asking if anyone ever stumped a T with their answer to a silly question.
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HazelGirl Elder Member Since Jan 2014 Location: USA Posts: 5,248 10 91 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 08:50 AM #6 I don't recall. Probably, though she probably also hides it well. __________________ HazelGirl PTSD, Depression, ADHD, Anxiety Propranolol 10mg as needed for anxiety, Wellbutrin XL 150mg
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ThisWayOut Grand Magnate Member Since Jan 2013 Location: in my own little world Posts: 4,227 11 6,452 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 08:54 AM #7 I've seen a lot of students, so I stump them often... but they do come back later having learned something and phasing that on.
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anilam Grand Poohbah Member Since Mar 2011 Location: Middle of Nowhere Posts: 1,806 13 743 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 09:10 AM #9 Yes, often enough. Just today I was explaining how I would like to have a BF but the RS would have to be without any sex and he quipped so like being married for many years and I said: "Aren't you over-sharing?" (he has been married for ages). Tried to translate it as better as I could, just doesn't seem natural in English.Oh well, you get the gist...
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NowhereUSA Magnate Member Since Jun 2014 Location: Somewhere Posts: 2,490 10	Jul 21, 2014 at 09:11 AM #10 yes. i'm a tough case. i do the right things and i don't get better. still, he is supportive. __________________ “It's a funny thing... but people mostly have it backward. They think they live by what they want. But really, what guides them is what they're afraid of.” ― Khaled Hosseini, And the Mountains Echoed
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ScarletPimpernel Wise Elder Member Since Nov 2013 Location: US Posts: 8,440 (SuperPoster!) 10 6,507 hugs given	Jul 21, 2014 at 01:20 PM #12 My T asked me one session to define "okay". That stumped me. So at the end of the session, she asked if I was going to be safe. I then asked her to define "safe". She sat there trying to figure out how to define it...lol Touché! __________________ "Odium became your opium..." ~Epica
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Ford Puma Grand Magnate Member Since May 2014 Location: Ireland Posts: 4,392 10 796 hugs given	Jul 22, 2014 at 04:16 AM #17 I cant be sure, when my T gets caught in a moment she just goes in to silent mode. Mind you it might give me a laugh later if she ever became tongue tied. __________________ A daily dose of positive in a world going cuckoo Humour helps...
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