[Bpfroggy]

During my last therapy session I felt like I had something of a breakthrough. However, since then, I started feeling really vulnerable and frightened, because of increasing feelings of dependency on my T. I am worried that he will abandon me or reject me somehow. I know this is probably a normal part of the process, but someone please if you've been through this please tell me that it gets better. I am seeing my T in a few days but then have a break of a few weeks - I'm kind of freaking out about that as well....

[glok]

Hello, Bpfrogg. My suggestion is to talk to your therapist about your concerns. There seems to be a bit of anxiety that seeks resolution.

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I wish you well.

[BeGentle]

It's totally normal and happens all the time to me. Possibly, the reason your feeling like this has to do with his pending departure. Your freaking out is probably stirring up some "stuff" you may not be aware of. Anticipatory anxiety caused by his vacations always prompted me to "quit", get angry, confused, why bother, etc. For me it was an unconsious desire to avoid the rejection, being left and abandoned by him, afraid he would never return or forget about me; just like childhood experiences. It does get better, but it happens every single time he leaves, even just being away from him in between session is painful for me. But when I realized why this was happening it lost a good bit of its power. Keep plugging through. It will be worth it in the future. Hope this helps.

[stopdog]

It sounds normal from what I have read.
I reject the notion that I somehow need to be a good client based on a therapist's expectations.

[Bpfroggy]

Thanks everyone - I should explain that I'm the one going away, not my T, but for some reason I am freaking out that he won't be there when I get back. Unreasonable, I know....

[nottrustin]

It is very common. If I were you I would talk to you T.

I have never actually said I worry about her leaving me. She seems to have figured out because of how I talk about not being able to trust that people. Every body in my life either leaves whether it is they walk out or they die. She randomly reminds me that she isn't going anywhere and is always there for me.

[BeGentle]

Frogster...Thanks for clarifying. Me leaving him is a LOT different. I still maintain daily contant via email, but when I am being left, watch out....the dynamic is completely different. Funny how they probably never miss us!

[iheartjacques]

It does get better. I used to worry and panic, what if something happened to my T? But now I know I could possibly find someone else to work with, but it hope not as I think this is the best one I've had after years of trying different ones. I had a wonderful T years ago but she terminated me

[ThisWayOut]

I tend to panic around breaks, but the worry about T disappearing on my is a constant thing. I worry that I get too much, or that thye hate me... My biggest worries around a break (either me going away or T going away) is that I do not have that support for X# of days.