[Two89w]

I have been seeing my t for 12 months and we have discussed many things and It has helped me a lot. The main reason I was seeing her was for extreme anger issues , however after last nights session I think I have come to the end with her.

I don't know if it's my lack ability to talk about other stuff or I don't have anything to talk about anymore or I am not finding the way she does things helpful anymore?

Has anyone ever felt this way? Have you changed T's and worked out that it's not the T and it was you and you were finished with therapy? Or it was the T and after you changed therapy continued to be beneficial ?

[Miswimmy1]

I have never been in this situation so I am not sure how much help I can give. But I did want to bring up that I don't think there is such a thing as it not being the T, but you as the reason why the relationship didn't work out. I think that therapeutic relationships are just like any other relationships- some are meant to be and some just don't work out (either your personalities don't fit or you have different beliefs about treatment, etc.) I don't think you should blame yourself.

[justdesserts]

I've had numerous previous therapists over the past 10 years and have had unique experiences with each of them. I've had to change because we moved; however, the change has been helpful. If you feel like you've gotten all you can from the relationship, there is no harm in being done and moving on and trying someone new or giving yourself a break to see what you might need from therapy now.

[growlycat]

I have hit "plateaus" with my T's before. Sometimes trying something different can break you out of a rut. It helps to let T know you feel stuck.

[Favorite Jeans]

Can you say more about what happened? Was it the first time you'd felt like you'd come to the end?

I think if she's been helpful for a year, it's definitely worth talking to her about the sense that you've hit a wall.

[Perna]

Originally Posted by Two89w

however after last nights session I think I have come to the end with her

I try not to make sudden decisions like that? I don't know what happened last night but I would look hard at it and discuss it with my therapist along with my thoughts about quitting and see if a better relationship with what you have can't be arranged. Changing is always an option but it is never easy and if one does not talk it all out, there are possible pitfalls of regret or wondering, "could I have done something differently?"