[vaffla]

I was curious about what other people fantasies about their T's. I don't mean what are exactly the details of the fantasies, I mean more what type of fantasies.

I have different kind of fantasies about my therapist. I used to have this fantasy about old T, that her and I are locked in her room together, because something happens and we're bound to spend a couple of hours or even a whole day together in there. I was thinking that at some point she would have to let go of the "therapist persona" and become more herself, because you can only sustain it for so long... I would be curious to get to know the real person behind it.

With new T, I don't have this fantasy (yet?). I have a feeling that the real person is pretty similar to what I see in the room when she's with me. But I do have other fantasies, of course. One of the fantasies is that we at some point she tells me that I am like a daughter to her and after I am done with my therapy with her, we keep a very close connection, where I go to her house and spend time with her, like a daughter would with her mother...

Would be curious about other people's fantasies, if you don't mind sharing .

[sunrise]

I can't think of any recent ones, but when I first started therapy with my current T, I had a fantasy that he and my former T and I would somehow meet and I would introduce them to each other. This fantasy often took place on the sidewalk in the neighborhood where my former T used to work. I don't know why I wanted them to meet, but it seems I did back then!

Another one I had in my first year was that my husband and I would be out eating dinner at a restaurant and we would run into T--like he would be in the next booth or something. That would have been super awkward, so maybe I was "rehearsing" for the worst case scenario in my head. T had told me the area he lived in so I made sure my H and I never went to any restaurants there.

[MASIMO]

Well, mine are xrated and oh so nice.

[rainbow8]

I used to always have a fantasy about being in a hospital and seeing a T every day. I also fantasized that a T would hold my hand. After 5 Ts, that fantasy came true because my current T will hold my hand.

Another fantasy I used to have regularly was that I'd be running around T's office (this was about former Ts, not my current one) throwing her books and things on the floor. I'd be out-of-control and she'd have to physically stop me. She would have to hold me to do that, which is of course what I wanted. This never happened!

[vaffla]

Oh yes, I also have X rated fantasies about my T. Used to have it with my former T too, and now I have it with my current T. It's so weird, because she's so asexual in her appearance, yet I keep fantasizing about her having an orgasm... just the thought of it turns me on so badly...

[skysblue]

I guess my only fantasy has been that she'll say, "Skysblue, I know you have so much on your mind and have so much to say that I would like to offer you extra time each session at no extra charge just so we can be sure to get to everything you'd like to discuss."

I called that "Painful Fantasy of T" on one thread.

[delicatefade26]

I would love for him to call me and say-I know that you are trying to run and I want you to stay and work with me...don't do this-don't leave
I also want him to "discipline" me in some way (not in a sexual way) but in a way that I never had growing up...to have a father figure set up boundaries and when I break them to in a loving way...punish me (does that make any sense?!) lol

[rainbow8]

I also have a fantasy of wanting my T to punish me by spanking me. I've told her a few times about wanting her to punish me but I'm not sure I said "spanking." I guess there are a few things I'm too ashamed to tell her.

[nicoleb2]

My dad died 14 years ago and my mom 4 years ago, so what I fantasize about is just having my T hug me and just sit with me. To feel like she would always be there for me 24/7.

She is really nice in session and I can call her when I need to, but I never feel comfortable calling her after about 9pm.

I don't know how I'd ever survive without her, so I like to think that she'll always be there, forever...

[delicatefade26]

Originally Posted by rainbow8

I also have a fantasy of wanting my T to punish me by spanking me. I've told her a few times about wanting her to punish me but I'm not sure I said "spanking." I guess there are a few things I'm too ashamed to tell her.

I haven't told mine yet that I want him to punish me (I think it would seem weird at this point-esp b/c we might not be able to continue) but last time I said something I asked him "are you mad at me for asking you that" and he was like "No, and I hope nothing in my voice is showing anger" I'm like..gahh that is not what I wanted...lol

[lastyearisblank]

Originally Posted by delicatefade26

I haven't told mine yet that I want him to punish me (I think it would seem weird at this point-esp b/c we might not be able to continue) but last time I said something I asked him "are you mad at me for asking you that" and he was like "No, and I hope nothing in my voice is showing anger" I'm like..gahh that is not what I wanted...lol

Yeah, there is more than one way to make some of these fantasies a reality! Now I am really wondering how some of these actually play out in therapy.

Probably my biggest fantasy with a T would be that they care as much about me as I do about them. Or like maybe 3/4 as much.

[BonnieJean]

I want her to say how much she's enjoyed getting to know me and that once therapy is over that she wants to be my friend. I fantasize about her inviting me over to her house to meet her husband. I want her be sad about the things I tell her and hold onto my hand. I wrote something last night about fear when I was 6 and asked her to read it. The last sentence was that I wanted her to hold onto my hand but she didn't. I was shocked weeks ago when I asked if I could hug her when I left. She said I could hug her anytime I want so I end each session with one. She's sometimes my surrogate mom but she's only 5 years older than me.

Just today, I was thinking about a hard, hard thing that I'm trying to tell T. We've talked around it, talked about talking about it...but there are so many things in my head that I know I need to SAY and I am way too scared.

And I realized that if I could tell T and then go home with him for the weekend so I could SEE and experience that he still loves me and I'm still alive and okay and myself that it would be a lot easier.

The telling and then being left alone with it seems unbearable.

[crazycanbegood]

I usually fantasize about T being a mother figure to me and a grandmother to my future children as I quit therapy.

Sometimes if the topic goes to sex, I MAY have a sexual fantasy but generally she's my mama.

[mixedup_emotions]

I have lots of different fantasies that involve my T.....and most nights, I usually think of him to help lull me to sleep.

[dizgirl2011]

In mine my T is always a mother or carer figure. I fantasise that she will tell me I am special and that she loves me and gives me a big hug. That she says she wants to always know me and be a part of my life. That I lay my head on her lap and she strokes my hair and reads me stories and just simple things a mother would do to show they care I guess. I would love to be held for a long time.

[sunrise]

I thought of another one. This is one I had a number of times. This may sound sexual, but it's not. The fantasy is that T lies on top of me. I feel very strongly the pressure or weight of him on me. It's very reassuring and comforting. It feels strong and like he is there and helping hold me together, like maybe I can get through some of this hard stuff if he is helping contain me. His strength and weight on me makes me feel I won't fly into a thousand pieces or disintegrate if I allow myself to feel certain things. This is a fantasy that comes during times we are doing our hardest work. Sometimes T has said to me that he will give me a "stronger presence" of himself during really difficult times. Maybe this fantasy is the embodiment of that. I am glad my T is really strong and can do this for me (figuratively).

[delicatefade26]

Originally Posted by sunrise

I thought of another one. This is one I had a number of times. This may sound sexual, but it's not. The fantasy is that T lies on top of me. I feel very strongly the pressure or weight of him on me. It's very reassuring and comforting. It feels strong and like he is there and helping hold me together, like maybe I can get through some of this hard stuff if he is helping contain me. His strength and weight on me makes me feel I won't fly into a thousand pieces or disintegrate if I allow myself to feel certain things. .

Wow this sounds amazing...I've now added it to mine lol

I used to dream a lot about physical contact with T, but that need feels met now even though she never touches me, and I never think about that anymore.

I have very strong wishes about being her baby in her tummy and her keeping me safe and being able to stay with her all the time. And being born and her being glad I'm hers, and staying at home with me and feeding me and soothing me and sleeping with me and playing with me. It's not something I 'fantasize' (just too painful )about so much as wish for with a physical ache, and I always tell her the wishes.

I used to fantasize about bumping into T when she's with her child, and her child liking my dog and being able to have a conversation with her about the dog. Maybe that's about wanting T's child to like me, or wanting T to see I'm good with children.

Recently, I've been fantasizing about T's child being referred to me in my role as child psychologist (role reversal!!) and me being very adult and professional and explaining in front of T and her husband that I would have to refer the case on. Maybe that's about wanting T to know that I don't act like I'm 2 years old in every sphere, and I can be very adult and professional and make the right choices for my clients. In the fantasy, I do also wonder whether I'd be able to resist reading the child's file though to find out more about T's parenting!..

[sunrise]

Originally Posted by Improving

Recently, I've been fantasizing about T's child being referred to me in my role as child psychologist (role reversal!!) and me being very adult and professional and explaining in front of T and her husband that I would have to refer the case on. Maybe that's about wanting T to know that I don't act like I'm 2 years old in every sphere, and I can be very adult and professional and make the right choices for my clients. In the fantasy, I do also wonder whether I'd be able to resist reading the child's file though to find out more about T's parenting!..

This is really interesting. Have you ever told her this one?

[Butterflies Are Free]

Great post - I have had many fantasies about my T. The sexual ones used to bother me, but not any more. I have fantasized about rescuing my T from some terrible situation, having T rescue me, going back in time to when my T was a child and playing dolls with her(I am also a child), and making up sessions in my head(what would happen and what both of us would say). Sometimes I use this as a way to comfort myself.

[sickmonkey]

Originally Posted by vaffla

I was curious about what other people fantasies about their T's. I don't mean what are exactly the details of the fantasies, I mean more what type of fantasies.

I have different kind of fantasies about my therapist. I used to have this fantasy about old T, that her and I are locked in her room together, because something happens and we're bound to spend a couple of hours or even a whole day together in there. I was thinking that at some point she would have to let go of the "therapist persona" and become more herself, because you can only sustain it for so long... I would be curious to get to know the real person behind it.

With new T, I don't have this fantasy (yet?). I have a feeling that the real person is pretty similar to what I see in the room when she's with me. But I do have other fantasies, of course. One of the fantasies is that we at some point she tells me that I am like a daughter to her and after I am done with my therapy with her, we keep a very close connection, where I go to her house and spend time with her, like a daughter would with her mother...

Would be curious about other people's fantasies, if you don't mind sharing .

I am a 49yo male and I have fantasized about my female therapist treating me like a child. First slapping the **** out of me, then giving me a very severe, bare bottomed belt whipping (like she really means it). I mean I want her to have me crying pretty hard by the time she is finished. The thought of her putting a diaper on me and making me drink from a baby-bottle is pretty appealing too.