[rainbow8]

I emailed my T an update on my H and my feelings about the session. I thanked her for being my T. Part of her reply was "Thank you for the thank you. You have made big changes in your life and I hope you feel proud! I know I feel very proud of you."

I was touched by what she wrote. It made me feel good. But I'm not sure if I feel proud of myself or if I even should be.

[Miswimmy1]

Of course you should feel proud of yourself! Therapy is hard work and it seems to me like your T sees that you are making progress. Any step forward is something to celebrate. Good job!

[Ambra]

It was so nice from your T to let you know this, good job Rainbow. And of course you should be proud of yourself, it seems to me from what I read that your T is pretty honest with you. If she wrote it, you have good reasons to be proud too.

[sweepy62]

That's great rainbow, you should be proud, you are a strong woman.

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[IndestructibleGirl]

Definitely be proud. Savour your success!!! Think of how much effort you've put in Rainbow

[Anne2.0]

I agree with her that you have made big changes in the way that you relate to people, as everyone can see here on this board. But even if you weren't part of this board and I hadn't seen these changes first-hand, I would say that T's aren't in the habit of offering meaningful compliments (note that she didn't say, "great job, rainbow!"

And there I will also add that taking what people say at face value is a good thing. If someone suggests that what you'd done deserves some self-pride, it most likely does.

[rainbow8]

Originally Posted by Miswimmy1

Of course you should feel proud of yourself! Therapy is hard work and it seems to me like your T sees that you are making progress. Any step forward is something to celebrate. Good job!

Thank you. I don't see the progress as much as others see it. That's the problem.

Originally Posted by Ambra

It was so nice from your T to let you know this, good job Rainbow. And of course you should be proud of yourself, it seems to me from what I read that your T is pretty honest with you. If she wrote it, you have good reasons to be proud too.

Yes, I trust my T but it's still hard to feel proud of myself.

Originally Posted by sweepy62

That's great rainbow, you should be proud, you are a strong woman.

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Thank you, sweepy. I never considered myself strong. Maybe I'm stronger than I realize.

[QUOTE=IndestructibleGirl;3968793]Definitely be proud. Savour your success!!! Think of how much effort you've put in Rainbow [/QUOTE
I think I've worked hard on my relationship with my T, and that is what I was referring to in my email, but I'm not sure if that is a reason to feel proud or not. I don't know if
that's what my T meant by making big changes in my life. I told her in the session and that is what I think is an important change.
[QUOTE=Anne2.0;39690ree with her that you have made big changes in the way that you relate to people, as everyone can see here on this board. But even if you weren't part of this board and I hadn't seen these changes first-hand, I would say that T's aren't in the habit of offering meaningful compliments (note that she didn't say, "great job, rainbow!"

And there I will also add that taking what people say at face value is a good thing. If someone suggests that what you'd done deserves some self-pride, it most likely does.[/QUOTE]

Thank you. I know that I don't get triggered so much in my threads anymore. I assume that's what you mean. I have to learn how to accept compliments, I think. My first
reaction is "me"?