[Inner_Firefly]

T said something that made me angry .

After a few days, I realized her words could be interpreted with alternative harmless meanings.

Is it a good idea to tell her, or just pretend I was never mad?

I am scared T would be hurt to find out I doubted her love and caring for me (which I did while angry).

I feel embarrassed for my oversensitivity.

It would be good to talk about it just like you wrote in your post...it would be good to clarify.

[stopdog]

I would tell the therapist. I don't believe a client can hurt a therapist. Clients get to tell them things like this.

[JustShakey]

I agree with RTS. Bring up everything you posted here.
If you ask me, the worst thing you could possibly do is pretend you were not mad. Chances are T knows she angered you and is waiting for you to bring it up. Ts have some interesting ways of making you not brush this kind of stuff under the rug. It's usually bloody painful too. Bite the bullet and bring it up. Save yourself a lot of hassle...

[healed84]

Tell your t! They are used to hearing about clients being mad at them! Hopefully your T will be open and willing to talk through it with you.

I just confronted my T with something that angered me and he was great to talk with me about it and even said he was glad that I brought it up to him.

Yes, tell her. That's her job. A good therapist will be glad you said something. If she's at fault, it's her chance to apologize and own up. If it was a misunderstanding, it's really helpful to work through (and understand) your process of reaction--from anger to embarrassment. Either way, it's a good experience to have things be messy and then see how they can be worked out.

I got angry with my therapist once and regretted it, but she said she was fine with however I showed up. It turned out much better than if I'd held my anger in.

[PeeJay]

Definitely tell! Therapy is a place for you to practice behaviors that scare you and a place to receive encouragement for being yourself.

[Inner_Firefly]

LicketySplit, I am glad you worked out your anger with T. She sounds nice. You are right, it can get messy and that's why I wanted to avoid it, but after reading your experience I think I will try to tell T. Thank you!

Peejay, your comment is so reassuring and nice! Thank you!

Healed84, your T sounds very open and caring, I am so glad you were able to bring up your anger. Thank you for sharing this.

Readytostop, yes, it may be good to clarify, Thank you!

Stopdog, let's hope so! I will be gentle, thank you!

Justshakey, thank you for the great advice. Actually I acted perfectly happy to hide my anger. After reading your advice I'm thinking perhaps I should admit it.

[JaneTennison1]

Tell her 100%. I tell my T anytime she annoyed me. Even lately she said something that I immediately told her annoyed me and she clarified what she had meant.

I agree with the others that you should tell her.
I once wrote a ranting email at my T because I felt like he had criticised my parenting techniques. (It was all my issue. I am really sensitive about it as it is the one thing I feel I do well).
The next session we talked through my anger and he said that he wished I could have shown him the anger in session and talked about it face to face. It ended up being an opportunity for progress.

[RedSun]

I agree with everyone. I told my t that I felt really angry with her one evening after a heavy session. She didn't bat an eyelid