[ScarletPimpernel]

I know this post could be posted in the BPD section, but I find it fits here because it could be applied to a lot of people in therapy.

My T and I were talking today about where I see myself and where she sees me in the future. I asked my T, what BPD traits I am supposed to be working on fixing. I told her I don't think all of them should be fixed because some are actually beneficial. Her response surprised me...

She said that the goal of therapy isn't to fix any of my BPD traits. The goal is to learn how to live with the traits, adapt, and cope with them so they don't negatively affect my life.

What I took from that is that I'm not "broken". I'm not "sick". I'm so used to BPD being perceived as a negative, that it was affirming to know that I am okay being who I am. That my "personality" doesn't need to change in order for me to be successful.

Idk. It gives me hope. Maybe it might give others hope.

[Mikeyboy]

I like the sound of that. Thanks for sharing.

[Partless]

Thank you for the post, that is a nice way to look at thing. Just so used to labels and pessimism that follows it (idea that person is broken or sick or somehow wrong). But we are all just different. Sometimes that means if we are circle, we don't fit into some shapes that are different. So we change the parts we can and the rest we just accept. So maybe we are not made to fit into a square. And that's all right. Lol, I don't know why I went with geometrical metaphor, I hate geometry.