How late in the evening is considered too late to text/email your T?

Lauliza · Sep 23, 2014 at 12:37 PM

I don't have my Ts personal info so I cannot text her. I can email her office email or call her at work. For me that's best, with the personal info I think it would be way to hard to manage boundaries, at least for me.

Sep 23, 2014 at 02:54 PM

latest ever for me was 11pm, went on till 12am. that was a bad patch.

lunatic soul · Sep 23, 2014 at 04:21 PM

Latest was 10 PM and he called back 11 PM at night. I was really suprised because I thought he may be sleeping and I'm bothering him.
I try not to call/text earlier than 11 AM at holidays and not after 10 PM because I don't want to disturb his sleep and I don't like when, for example, myboss call me at 7 AM at Sundays...
Of course if there is an emergensy situation, it's different and it's better to text not to do something worse.

I send emails at night, latest was 4 AM if I'm not wrong. I always say I'm sorry for emailing so late but I think he reads it at day, so everything is okay and I don't bother him that much.

I think it's better to email not text at night. I very rarely text at night even to my friends and sometimes I'm angry that someone disturbs me at night.

Debbie07 · Sep 25, 2014 at 02:35 AM

So you texted that you were trying not to SI and are upset they replied to you quickly?

HowDoYouFeelMeow? · Nov 05, 2014 at 11:28 AM

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So you texted that you were trying not to SI and are upset they replied to you quickly?

Yes, that was my situation. She was very understanding and not angry. She asked if I would be able to not hurt myself and asked if I needed her to call 911 for me.

justdesserts · Nov 05, 2014 at 12:17 PM

I've texted and got a response as late as 11. Time doesn't matter when you're emailing.

precaryous · Nov 05, 2014 at 12:27 PM

I don't text. I usually email between 9am - 10pm.

If you're unsure of your Ts boundaries around out of session contact, I would ask him about it to clear any doubts.

Do you guys think all our emails wind up copied and into our file? I'll have to ask T about that.

healed84 · Nov 05, 2014 at 01:18 PM

I email at any tome day or night. Texting, I try not to text him past his normal working hours. He has texted me way later, but would only initiate that late if it were an emergency.

GenCat · Nov 05, 2014 at 01:25 PM

I would say no later than 10 pm. But my therapist has responded, to emails I've sent earlier, after 12 am.

I would just put myself in their shoes...how late at night would you still want to be working? Or helping/ talking to a client?

Or just ask your T if she has a time limit for that.

shakespeare47 · Nov 05, 2014 at 04:01 PM

I've never texted or emailed a T. My T called me once or twice at home.. and I didn't really like it... so, I wouldn't feel right about contacting a T between sessions.

ready2makenice · Nov 05, 2014 at 05:53 PM

I never email my T and I only text to schedule and reschedule appointment and usually don't text after 6 as that's the latest T will see clients,sometimes T will text back later but I won't respond because of the time

Freewilled · Nov 05, 2014 at 06:27 PM

I think I texted my T one time at like 9:00 or 9:30 pm...but I know he works till 9:00pm and we had just finished our appt. around 8pm the same night. I only texted about scheduling though....oh yeah, and one time or two before that, T texted me back late, late - like 11pm. So I suppose that set the precedent.

junkDNA · Nov 05, 2014 at 08:07 PM

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Originally Posted by precaryous

I don't text. I usually email between 9am - 10pm.

If you're unsure of your Ts boundaries around out of session contact, I would ask him about it to clear any doubts.

Do you guys think all our emails wind up copied and into our file? I'll have to ask T about that.

idk about other Ts but my T has printed out and saved almost all my emails. he keeps them in a locked box.

Ad Intra · Nov 05, 2014 at 09:04 PM

I can only call her, and she'll only answer her work phone when she's not in session, so it's like playing the lotto when trying to reach her. When I used to reach out it would normally be in the mornings before I went to class.

Nov 06, 2014 at 01:37 AM

I only call or text during the day. I've emailed all times of the night though. I did one time call her on her cell at 9 pm but I hung up immediately. I don't know if she saw the call or not, she never mentioned it and neither did I.

GeminiNZ · Nov 06, 2014 at 04:28 AM

I can email or text any time i like, but T only replies weekdays and not after 5.30pm. So evenings and weekends, i know i have to wait 'til the next day/Monday for a reply.

That said, he replies to everything i send, and we tend to email back and forth through the week, processing and clarifying between sessions, so i think i'm pretty lucky.

The Xmas holidays are the hardest. Major triggers for me coinciding with a 3-4 week break for him makes for very messy times. But even then i can send as many emails as i want or need to, and he'll reply two or three times a week, so i try to focus on the positives and keep the whiny 'where are youuuuu, it's not faaaaair, please reply soooon' emails to a minimum.

ThingWithFeathers · Nov 06, 2014 at 04:41 AM

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idk about other Ts but my T has printed out and saved almost all my emails. he keeps them in a locked box.

Yeah, my t also prints out all my emails and places them in my file. They're considered part of the therapy notes.

MrPink182 · Nov 06, 2014 at 06:15 AM

My T doesn't give out an email, especially texting...

Lauliza · Nov 06, 2014 at 10:35 AM

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Originally Posted by junkDNA

idk about other Ts but my T has printed out and saved almost all my emails. he keeps them in a locked box.

My T and Pdoc print out emails, sign off on them (they are filtered by the admin staff first) and put them in my files. This is an email form within a practice though, not personal email. Mine don't do personal emails or texting. You call and leave a voicemail message anytime on their work phone and they'll always call back, but within office hours.

MrPink182 · Nov 06, 2014 at 11:18 AM

I'm so jealous you guys get to email and text your Ts....

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Lauliza Grand Magnate Member Since Nov 2009 Location: United States Posts: 3,231 14 260 hugs given	Sep 23, 2014 at 12:37 PM #21 I don't have my Ts personal info so I cannot text her. I can email her office email or call her at work. For me that's best, with the personal info I think it would be way to hard to manage boundaries, at least for me.
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Anonymous100185 Guest Posts: n/a	Sep 23, 2014 at 02:54 PM #22 latest ever for me was 11pm, went on till 12am. that was a bad patch.
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Debbie07 Member Member Since Feb 2006 Posts: 76 18	Sep 25, 2014 at 02:35 AM #24 So you texted that you were trying not to SI and are upset they replied to you quickly?
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justdesserts Veteran Member Member Since Jul 2014 Location: Currently traveling the world Posts: 534 10 399 hugs given	Nov 05, 2014 at 12:17 PM #26 I've texted and got a response as late as 11. Time doesn't matter when you're emailing.
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precaryous Inner Space Traveler Member Since May 2014 Location: on the wing of an eagle Posts: 3,892 10 8,164 hugs given	Nov 05, 2014 at 12:27 PM #27 I don't text. I usually email between 9am - 10pm. If you're unsure of your Ts boundaries around out of session contact, I would ask him about it to clear any doubts. Do you guys think all our emails wind up copied and into our file? I'll have to ask T about that.
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shakespeare47 Grand Magnate Member Since Jul 2014 Location: US Posts: 3,145 10 437 hugs given	Nov 05, 2014 at 04:01 PM #30 I've never texted or emailed a T. My T called me once or twice at home.. and I didn't really like it... so, I wouldn't feel right about contacting a T between sessions.
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ready2makenice Member Member Since Mar 2013 Location: USA Posts: 318 11 319 hugs given	Nov 05, 2014 at 05:53 PM #31 I never email my T and I only text to schedule and reschedule appointment and usually don't text after 6 as that's the latest T will see clients,sometimes T will text back later but I won't respond because of the time
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Freewilled Grand Poohbah Member Since Mar 2013 Location: US Posts: 1,708 11 2,018 hugs given	Nov 05, 2014 at 06:27 PM #32 I think I texted my T one time at like 9:00 or 9:30 pm...but I know he works till 9:00pm and we had just finished our appt. around 8pm the same night. I only texted about scheduling though....oh yeah, and one time or two before that, T texted me back late, late - like 11pm. So I suppose that set the precedent.
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Ad Intra Veteran Member Member Since Oct 2014 Location: Hyattsville, MD Posts: 639 10 178 hugs given	Nov 05, 2014 at 09:04 PM #34 I can only call her, and she'll only answer her work phone when she's not in session, so it's like playing the lotto when trying to reach her. When I used to reach out it would normally be in the mornings before I went to class.
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Anonymous43207 Guest Posts: n/a	Nov 06, 2014 at 01:37 AM #35 I only call or text during the day. I've emailed all times of the night though. I did one time call her on her cell at 9 pm but I hung up immediately. I don't know if she saw the call or not, she never mentioned it and neither did I.
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MrPink182 Member Member Since Nov 2014 Location: USA Posts: 183 9 47 hugs given	Nov 06, 2014 at 06:15 AM #38 My T doesn't give out an email, especially texting...
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MrPink182 Member Member Since Nov 2014 Location: USA Posts: 183 9 47 hugs given	Nov 06, 2014 at 11:18 AM #40 I'm so jealous you guys get to email and text your Ts....
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