Do you have a gender preference when picking a therapist?

I'm a female, 54, and I always prefer a male in any professional business I have. All male doctors, all male therapists. When I was selling my house, I insisted that our realtor be a male. This comes from my upbringing; but from the father. He had an awful opinion of women; thought they should all stay home and cook and clean. And that's how I find myself thinking. The ironic thing is that for 20 years I worked in a male dominated field. Most times I was the only female. And I loved it. And if I had been in the position to hire, I would have never hired a female. But when I applied at places and I got this feeling like they were holding against me that I was a female; that I didn't get hired because of it. Then I was mad. It's crazy. I'm a female, yet I have no confidence in them. I told my new tdoc about this and he finds it very interesting. We haven't explored it anymore yet.

Muffy

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I'm a female, 54, and I always prefer a male in any professional business I have. All male doctors, all male therapists. When I was selling my house, I insisted that our realtor be a male. This comes from my upbringing; but from the father. He had an awful opinion of women; thought they should all stay home and cook and clean. And that's how I find myself thinking. The ironic thing is that for 20 years I worked in a male dominated field. Most times I was the only female. And I loved it. And if I had been in the position to hire, I would have never hired a female. But when I applied at places and I got this feeling like they were holding against me that I was a female; that I didn't get hired because of it. Then I was mad. It's crazy. I'm a female, yet I have no confidence in them. I told my new tdoc about this and he finds it very interesting. We haven't explored it anymore yet.

Muffy

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My husband calls me the anti-feminist. I see we have some things in common!

yes...women therapists only due to bad childhood.

<font color="green">For me, I have been working with a lady therapist and I am doubtful I could have done as much or as well with a male. However I am working with a male pyschriatrist, there was no other choice but we seem to be able do what we need to do. He has me on Welbutrin and Lexapro and I am not as miserable as I was before this.</font>

I prefer a male therapist. That might be due to the fact that I had an awful experience with a behavioral therapist in West Seattle named Jenny Snell. Maybe, maybe not. Not sure.