[skycastle]

Okay, I'm meeting for the first and maybe only time alone with my new couple's counselor tonight, and I REALLY need to tell her things, the truth, especially. But it's like stepping off a ledge; I don't know what to expect or where I'll land. What do you tell yourself to push yourself to lay everything out on the table during a therapy session? Especially if it's a really embarrassing conversation (about sex!)?

[kaliope]

that is how I treat therapy, but I compare it to jumping in a cold pool. it is going to be uncomfortable at first, but I will adjust and get used to it eventually. I feel I am paying for this service and I need to lay it all out on the table if I am going to get the best out of it. why waste time? therapist needs to have all the info to be able to sort the problem out. so I jump in with both feet. good luck and take care.

[HazelGirl]

I tell myself that if I just start, it will get easier. If I just start talking, it will all spill out eventually. Just get those first few sentences out, and it gets easier.

[shabur]

When I am struggling with something I need to tell my T I will write it all out and either read it or give it to her to read. Writing it out ensures I will get everything out and walking in to my appt with paper in hand is my tell to my T.

[LilacLime]

I find that if you go over what you want to say before your session, kind of like playing the conversation out in your head, you are more likely to actually go through with talking about it when the time comes. Sometimes writing it down like other suggestions help too, but this one works better for me. Good luck! Let us know how it goes.