[BlueEyez87]

So me and my grandmother convinced my mom to check herself in voluntarily to a mental facility. She already told me she tried to tell them to let her leave.She called me stating that the facility is not what we expected it to be that the psychatrist doesn't know what she is talking about and they aren't giving her her depression meds which she only hasn't had for a day?? That in my opinion isn't even long enough to have withdrawls but I don't take medicine. More to back on topic has anyone ever been in a hospital like setting this placed seemed great online only good reviews about the hospital my grandmother thinks that she wouldn't be happy anywhere we put her. Maybe she is just still not able to come to terms with what is going on in her life and doesn't realized this is what's best for her. Has anyone ever been put in a hospital before and can give me some insight to what she may be going through this is driving me crazy I don't want her to be upset but she truely needs this help!!! What can I do??????

I'm sorry you and your grandmother are struggling with issues related to your mom's mental illness, but I also want to say, congratulations for loving her enough to encourage her to get the help she so desperately needs.

One day in the hospital is too little amount of time for your mom to really know whether or not the program is going to help her. From my own experience, I will say that being admitted was extremely scary and humiliating for me. I knew I needed the help but didn't want to be there. I remember calling my sister and my good friend that night and telling them it was a big mistake and I wanted to leave. But they convinced me to stay and I was able to get stabilized. Did I ever come to love the psychiatrist or staff in the place? No, but I did meet other patients who had a big impact on my life. I left the hospital after two weeks and my meds (at the time needed them, but haven't been on any in over five years) were regulated and I had a plan for recovery. The biggest thing that needed to happen was for me to be connected with a good solid therapist on the outside for my recovery.

If I can say anything you can do it is to listen and encourage your mother when you visit. There isn't any need for you to get tough or argue with her. Let her psychiatrist and social worker do the hard lifting when it means helping your mom to understand that she isn't ready to be released yet. They can handle any heat she sends their way I hope things work out for all of you.

[BlueEyez87]

Thank you I needed to hear that! I get to visit her today and I did see her on her first day and she wasnt doing very well. She slept all day yesterday and I think is more willing to try now especiallly now after speaking with her! Fingers crossed for when I see her tonight!

Originally Posted by nsellers2010

Thank you I needed to hear that! I get to visit her today and I did see her on her first day and she wasnt doing very well. She slept all day yesterday and I think is more willing to try now especiallly now after speaking with her! Fingers crossed for when I see her tonight!

I'm so glad to hear that you're going to get to visit your mom, today, nsellers, and it's even better to hear that she is more willing to try and accept the help being offered her! When you go to visit, just spend the time listening and supporting. Encourage her to talk to her treatment team about issues about goals and discharge if she starts pushing to leave. Let them deal with those tough questions Good luck!

[ThisWayOut]

I'm glad she seems to be doing a bit better.
I'm a bit conflicted about hospitals. I've been to better ones, and I have been to awful ones. I would suggest supporting her, but also listening to her concerns. A place can sound amazing online, but be totally different when experienced. It can certainly always be scary, and often humiliating, but if she talks about not being heard, or about staff being unprofessional, that may be accurate... the doctor should spend more than 30 seconds with her in the hallway, they need to keep confidentiality, they need to be respective and keep her feeling safe.
The best hospital experience I had was frustrating and humiliating, but also safe and supportive. The worst one treated me like an obstacle in the way to getting through their days.
Keep listening and encouraging her. (Hugs)

[lilypup]

Your mom is so lucky to have you. Many kids just don't care. If the hospital seems clean and looks appropriate when you visit, try to get your mom to stay. It takes a while to get used to the other people. But as another poster said, if things seem off to you, listen to her.