[Soccer mom]

I've really been struggling with my relationship with my T. due to my maternal transference. Intellectually, I totally get that the transference is helping her see how I related to my mom and I have realized SO MUCH about myself due to it. But, I take everything she says personally, still have trust issues and she's pretty direct/non-mushy. She's not the type who would say they care about me - just that she's shown she cares about me. I saw her for 5 years off and on before my mom died and almost weekly since May. I've told her I thought about quitting several times and that I've thought about switching T's. She said it's not her temperment to be mushy but that she's very honest and I do know she's considered the best in town.
I'm going Monday to see the T. who she refers to when she is booked. Since she knows my T., I thought she would be the best person to give me the reassurance that I everything is going as expected. She has told me that my current T. doesn't need to know. I'm hoping after 1-2 sessions, my fears will calm down.
My T. hasn't responded to a text I sent on Tuesday which is adding to all of these fears. I just texted her again asking if she got my texts on Tuesday. If she doesn't respond by later today, I guess I'll have to call her. I'm hoping it was a simple mistake of forgetting to respond - I've done that - seen a text from 2 days before and had forgotten to respond.
I'm really nervous but think I need to see the other T. to satisfy my curiosity and get some much needed support and reassurance.

Hope it goes well. I saw another T a few weeks ago. I didn't tell her I was still seeing my first T, nor did I tell my T about it, I wanted to see what it would feel like talking to another T and to think about switching. I didn't like the second T I saw, so no thoughts of switching. I think I might always wonder if I would be better off with someone else, but I have decided to stick with mine. Does she show she cares with smiles, if not words?

[HazelGirl]

Sometimes seeing another T is a great idea. I hope it helps and brings some clarity.

[stopdog]

I think checking with other therapists to be a very useful thing.

[Soccer mom]

Originally Posted by Brown Owl

Hope it goes well. I saw another T a few weeks ago. I didn't tell her I was still seeing my first T, nor did I tell my T about it, I wanted to see what it would feel like talking to another T and to think about switching. I didn't like the second T I saw, so no thoughts of switching. I think I might always wonder if I would be better off with someone else, but I have decided to stick with mine. Does she show she cares with smiles, if not words?

When the transference doesn't get in the way, we have a great relationship. We tease each other, she smiles and laughs and her eyes have a way of reaching my soul. She actually said we were friends two sessions ago and it made me mad which was the exact opposite reaction I thought I would have. She said teasingly I must think about her a lot because she's a good friend and fun. I said "why would you say something like that when we can't be friends". She said "we're friends, just in this atmosphere one hour a week". Totally caught me off guard.
So, our relationship is good - it's the transference I think that's causing my negative feelings/emotions but I just want someone who knows my T. to tell me that she's good and I should stick with her. And maybe give me some guidance how to handle some situations like not responding to my texts.