T and I were talking today about not being perfect and making mistakes. T said I am flawed and I accept that I makes lots of mistakes. I hurt people on purpose and by mistake, I get *****y and spiteful and that's life.
I know it's transference but I did idolize her and now I know that she could hurt me, I am feeling a little scared of her

[unaluna]

Good post. Its the hurting people on purpose that gets to me. That changes your last sentence to "she WOULD hurt me" - which to me has always been worse? Otoh, i have always been an idiot and believed people when they said they "didnt mean it" - up to the point when it becomes blatantly obvious; then i just cut them off. It feels safer to get into relationships with people who present themselves as perfect, but actually its not. People are tired and messy.

[HazelGirl]

But that's the risk we run in every single relationship on earth. Even the most kind people on earth occasionally want to hurt someone else. Whether it's retaliation, revenge, jealousy, anger, etc... Everyone does it.

Did she clarify I what context she might hurt someone one purpose? I have made spiteful comments to my H and to my Mum and brother in the past which were intended to be hurtful. While I'm not proud I've ever behaved that way at all, I know I wouldn't do that kind of thing in a professional relationship and I doubt your T would either.
I understand the fear though, it would be worth discussing it with her.

[ThisWayOut]

I would ask T, but I think she meant it more along the line of what Echos Myron said; that she has been spiteful and hurtful in personal relationships. I think that can be a powerful thing for a T to admit: that being vengeful or spiteful is part of the human condition at times. It's not to say that we should go about being mean to people on purpose, but sometimes it happens. I know I have been quite mean on purpose to a few people in my life. I'm not necessarily proud of it, and I wouldn't do it to others (certainly not in a professional capacity), but given the oportunity to do so again with those very few people, I think my humanity would win over and I would be just as mean. Granted, these are long-term abusers who I hope to never see again, but still... I wouldn't hesitate to be a class a ***** to their face yet again even if not provoked at the time.
Definitely something to discuss with T though... I don't think most T's would be spiteful to their clients. I can't see them being competant and ethical T's if they were, and your T sounds competant and ethical from everything you have said previously.