[ThingWithFeathers]

Why do I care so much about what she thinks? I am waiting for a response to an email I sent her, but the wait is harrowing! I can't wait to hear back from her, but I'm also fearful of what she might think. I care about her opinion so much and I'm feeling very vulnerable having just told her I want to follow in her footsteps to become a t in her field.

She's back in the office tomorrow (I think) so just one more day to wait!

[ThisWayOut]

Take a deep breath. It will be ok.
Waiting for a response to something can be nerve wrecking. Waiting for a response on something that causes great anxiety is exponentially so... I hope you can calm yourself down a bit, and I hope t doesn't make you wait long for a response. Does she normally respond to emails? DI'd you ask her for a response on this? If not for either of those questions, you may want to leave her a message telling her how anxious you are about all this and that you would really like to hear back from her about it. I know my t rarely responds to messages, so if I need a response from her Ihave to specifically ask for it.

[smmath]

I have similar experiences when I email my T, and it makes sense. You've just opened yourself up to her and shown her vulnerability and then you are left hanging until she messages you.

What kind of response are looking to get from her?

[ThingWithFeathers]

Originally Posted by ThisWayOut

Take a deep breath. It will be ok.
Waiting for a response to something can be nerve wrecking. Waiting for a response on something that causes great anxiety is exponentially so... I hope you can calm yourself down a bit, and I hope t doesn't make you wait long for a response. Does she normally respond to emails? DI'd you ask her for a response on this? If not for either of those questions, you may want to leave her a message telling her how anxious you are about all this and that you would really like to hear back from her about it. I know my t rarely responds to messages, so if I need a response from her Ihave to specifically ask for it.

She has always responded to my emails, sometimes a paragraph or two other times a sentence or two. She has never not replied. But this time I haven't heard from her today, and that's unusual. Very unusual. I'm inclined to think she wasn't in the office today - I'm not yet jumping to the conclusion that it's me or my email. I just feel so pathetically needy!

[ThingWithFeathers]

Originally Posted by smmath

I have similar experiences when I email my T, and it makes sense. You've just opened yourself up to her and shown her vulnerability and then you are left hanging until she messages you.

What kind of response are looking to get from her?

I don't have a particular response in mind. I just genuinely care about her opinion and want to hear what she thinks. Admittedly, I would be upset if the response was negative, but I do want an honest opinion. It's kind of my fault for emailing an hour after she'd finished work for the week, I knew she couldn't reply until she got back to the office the following week. I did tbink I would hear from her by now - I haven't waited this long before.

[Burgundy]

What do we do when they don't respond at all this time? Just show up pissed at the next appointment and try to forgive them, don't let it faze you, but then you realize that it does hurt, and then just try to get over it? How do you trust your T again when they let you down just like everyone else does?

[ThingWithFeathers]

Originally Posted by Burgundy

What do we do when they don't respond at all this time? Just show up pissed at the next appointment and try to forgive them, don't let it faze you, but then you realize that it does hurt, and then just try to get over it? How do you trust your T again when they let you down just like everyone else does?

You know, I hadn't looked at it that way before. I knew I'd feel something if she doesn't respond, but wasn't sure what. Yes, let down after reaching out and showing vulnerability.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Still no word I truly hope she doesn't think it's a terrible idea or that I am pathetic. Maybe she's trying to think of a nice way to tell me I'm not cut out for it? Maybe she doesn't know what to say? Or, perhaps she hasn't had time to reply yet.

[iheartjacques]

In this situation, I'm glad I don't have email access to T. I would go out of my mind waiting for a reply. At least when I take in a letter he's asked me to write, he reads it there and talks about it straightaway.

[ThingWithFeathers]

The process you and your t have sounds good. Yes, waiting is hard. But usually I don't have to wait this long. That's what really makes me question myself.

[ThingWithFeathers]

I haven't heard from her It's been nearly 6 days since I sent the email. Maybe she really doesn't think I'm cut out for it? I'm not annoyed with her, I'm just left doubting my abilities to pursue a career in tt. Why no response? Could she be having negative feelings about my email? She has always responded at the first opportunity, could she really be so busy the last 3 days not to respond? Or is it me?

[precaryous]

Originally Posted by ThingWithFeathers

I haven't heard from her It's been nearly 6 days since I sent the email. Maybe she really doesn't think I'm cut out for it? I'm not annoyed with her, I'm just left doubting my abilities to pursue a career in tt. Why no response? Could she be having negative feelings about my email? She has always responded at the first opportunity, could she really be so busy the last 3 days not to respond? Or is it me?

She could have missed your email for some reason. When do you see her again?

[ThingWithFeathers]

I see her next week. I know she had training this week, which is why I don't have an appointment. Maybe she just didn't think it was important. I guess she can't mind read, so maybe it's not a big deal to her. But my mind can't help but jump to other conclusions right now.

[ThisWayOut]

I think it might be more along the lines of something she doesn't deem as needing an immediate answer. I know when I was doing trainings (especially week-long intensives), the last thing on my mind was responding to anything that was not an immediate emergency. I think since it's still worrying you, maybe you can shoot her a follow-up email about the anxiety surrounding that email, and asking for at least a quick response.

[iheartjacques]

How you doing? Any reply? I'd be out of my mind by now!

[ThingWithFeathers]

So, yay! She just responded. All is well. She highlighted to me that many people who go into tt have their own histories, I just need to learn how to cope with triggers and feelings so I am able to continue working. We'll chat more about it next week. Thanks for all you support xx