[Soccer mom]

So, my husband and I had a joint session to help him know how to aid me through my maternal transference for my female T. She helped him a lot in understanding.

She has sometimes touched my arm or back. I have told her that it tells me if things are ok between us. She said I shouldn't rely on it because maybe she will forget, etc. She hasn't done it since we talked about it and it has been bothering me. In a recent letter I read her, I even said I'm worried she won't touch me again. The hospice center where she works and which treated my mom just had a celebration of life ceremony last weekend. I hugged everyone who helped me with my mom - except my T. who really deserved it the most. But, I was worried she wouldn't want me to.

At the end of our session, my husband stood up and said "now give her a hug and tell her how much you love and appreciate her". That's just his personality. He gave her a big hug and said he loved and appreciated her. She stood there waiting for me to initiate while smiling (I'm sure having the same thoughts I was "how ironic"). I hugged her but couldn't say a word - just kind of laughed the whole time knowing he didn't have a clue about our past conversations. I didn't want to do it just because he said to - I want to do it when it's just me and her and on my terms.

I can't stop grinning thinking how ironic that it just happened. So, wonder if she will now be open to hugs at the end of every session. He didn't give her a chance to say yes or no. He just did it. I see her Thursday so I'm sure we'll be talking about it.

[unaluna]

Im glad you married someone with a huggy personality!

[MrPink182]

I am happy you hugged her, maybe you can again