[dyas62]

[quote=DocJohn;25091]Well, I'm amazed we didn't start this forum earlier, as people seem to have many questions about psychotherapy, how to get started, how to find a new therapist, knowing when to end therapy, etc. etc.

most people - me included in the beginning dont want to admit they need help and it wont do anygood until there ready-as for me its saved my life.


sue

[ampnot4every1]

Does anyone on the thread have a recomendation for a good forum/thread? Similar to this one

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by ampnot4every1

Does anyone on the thread have a recomendation for a good forum/thread? Similar to this one

I'm not sure what you mean in your question above.
There a many forums here that are aligned with diagnoses, a general forum, one for books and movies, one for pets, and many more. There are also some social groups.

The Psychotherapy forum is below and is an active forum. Maybe read some forums and see what you think.

[iam2ys4u]

I need some support regarding psychotherapy? I have gone to therapy off and on for a lot of years and to a lot of different therapist. I feel that with the different diagnosis I have had throughout my life time, I would have done things differently. I also believe that at different times in my life and depending what was going on is how I chose my next decision as to what I needed to do.

I have a very good relationship with my physciatrist and have been with him for many years. We have worked long and hard for me to finally be on medication that is working great for me at this time. Being on the right meds was always a priority for my well being. My pdoc recommended some therapist that I have gone to, but I always felt that the medication was most important.

When I started seeing someone for therapy I would go, but I never stayed long enough with one. I would go until I thought I got enough out of it and I would quit on my own without going back. But, I feel like I have missed a lot from not starting with issues of my childhood and really getting answers from what is the reason for my long time problems. I have always dealt with what was going on in my life at that time when I would see a therapist. When I got enough answers and felt better about myself I felt like OK I am done and that's how it was for many years.

For the first time in many years I am feeling the best I have in such along time! I wish I could have understood what therapy was all about. I know I got a lot out of it, it helped me with the situations that I was going through at that time.

Now with being older I wish I could have had therapy to understand how it has effected my life over the years. I still feel like I have a lot of unanswered questions to life, BUT it is too late and I should have figured it all out by now because as old as I am. I always felt like I needed therapy for what was going on at that time and never really got help for WHY things were going on because of how I was raised. I also feel like if I would have been taught answers to life's situations from reliable, responsible parents growing up and being able to depend on them growing up, I would have done things differently. To this very day I feel like I missed out on a lot of parental advise that would have helped me through life and instead of just living my life...I STILL DWELL ON MY CHILDHOOD and how it has effected my whole life and I still feel sorry for myself.

At this time in my life I feel that it is too late or that I should have learned to let it go and not let it still bother me. Shouldn't I have learned this by now, through my life time to just let it go? Then why do I still feel like I do? I am suppose to be an adult at this time in my life.

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by iam2ys4u

I need some support regarding psychotherapy? I have gone to therapy off and on for a lot of years and to a lot of different therapist. I feel that with the different diagnosis I have had throughout my life time, I would have done things differently. I also believe that at different times in my life and depending what was going on is how I chose my next decision as to what I needed to do.

I have a very good relationship with my physciatrist and have been with him for many years. We have worked long and hard for me to finally be on medication that is working great for me at this time. Being on the right meds was always a priority for my well being. My pdoc recommended some therapist that I have gone to, but I always felt that the medication was most important.

When I started seeing someone for therapy I would go, but I never stayed long enough with one. I would go until I thought I got enough out of it and I would quit on my own without going back. But, I feel like I have missed a lot from not starting with issues of my childhood and really getting answers from what is the reason for my long time problems. I have always dealt with what was going on in my life at that time when I would see a therapist. When I got enough answers and felt better about myself I felt like OK I am done and that's how it was for many years.

For the first time in many years I am feeling the best I have in such along time! I wish I could have understood what therapy was all about. I know I got a lot out of it, it helped me with the situations that I was going through at that time.

Now with being older I wish I could have had therapy to understand how it has effected my life over the years. I still feel like I have a lot of unanswered questions to life, BUT it is too late and I should have figured it all out by now because as old as I am. I always felt like I needed therapy for what was going on at that time and never really got help for WHY things were going on because of how I was raised. I also feel like if I would have been taught answers to life's situations from reliable, responsible parents growing up and being able to depend on them growing up, I would have done things differently. To this very day I feel like I missed out on a lot of parental advise that would have helped me through life and instead of just living my life...I STILL DWELL ON MY CHILDHOOD and how it has effected my whole life and I still feel sorry for myself.

At this time in my life I feel that it is too late or that I should have learned to let it go and not let it still bother me. Shouldn't I have learned this by now, through my life time to just let it go? Then why do I still feel like I do? I am suppose to be an adult at this time in my life.

Gosh I can relate so much to what you've said here. I also wish I had found a therapist like my current one when I was much younger. But I'm grateful to have found her now. I am 60 and have been with my current therapist for 6 years, and we have talked about the things you are talking about - lost time that can't be recaptured, missing important things in my childhood and that they can't be provided now in the same way, and how I feel inside as if I'm a teenager. I've also talked about being ashamed for feeling sorry for myself, but she doesn't see it that way; she encourages me to accept all of me and not judge myself.

Therapy has helped me to also accept when I am focused on something ("can't let it go") and we talk about it. We talk about it as many times as I want to talk about it. What happens for me is that I have periods where I get focused on the affection I never had, and wish my therapist could provide that. I know she can't, and we talk about the wish and she is so accepting and understanding, and with time, talking about it relieves the wish as if I am getting the affection, but in the way of attention and attunement and acceptance.

I hope you are talking to your therapist about everything you wrote, because it is all so important - you are important!

I encourage you to copy your post and post it below in the forum so you can receive more replies

[springtimetoday]

I would like to join the social group that is for clients who have been betrayed by their therapists. Can someone invite me to do that?

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by springtimetoday

I would like to join the social group that is for clients who have been betrayed by their therapists. Can someone invite me to do that?

Send a PM to Syra, who created the group.

[nicoleflynn]

As long as we are alive, it is never too late....I am 66...and a sophomore in college.

hugs, Nicole

Originally Posted by iam2ys4u

I need some support regarding psychotherapy? I have gone to therapy off and on for a lot of years and to a lot of different therapist. I feel that with the different diagnosis I have had throughout my life time, I would have done things differently. I also believe that at different times in my life and depending what was going on is how I chose my next decision as to what I needed to do.

I have a very good relationship with my physciatrist and have been with him for many years. We have worked long and hard for me to finally be on medication that is working great for me at this time. Being on the right meds was always a priority for my well being. My pdoc recommended some therapist that I have gone to, but I always felt that the medication was most important.

When I started seeing someone for therapy I would go, but I never stayed long enough with one. I would go until I thought I got enough out of it and I would quit on my own without going back. But, I feel like I have missed a lot from not starting with issues of my childhood and really getting answers from what is the reason for my long time problems. I have always dealt with what was going on in my life at that time when I would see a therapist. When I got enough answers and felt better about myself I felt like OK I am done and that's how it was for many years.

For the first time in many years I am feeling the best I have in such along time! I wish I could have understood what therapy was all about. I know I got a lot out of it, it helped me with the situations that I was going through at that time.

Now with being older I wish I could have had therapy to understand how it has effected my life over the years. I still feel like I have a lot of unanswered questions to life, BUT it is too late and I should have figured it all out by now because as old as I am. I always felt like I needed therapy for what was going on at that time and never really got help for WHY things were going on because of how I was raised. I also feel like if I would have been taught answers to life's situations from reliable, responsible parents growing up and being able to depend on them growing up, I would have done things differently. To this very day I feel like I missed out on a lot of parental advise that would have helped me through life and instead of just living my life...I STILL DWELL ON MY CHILDHOOD and how it has effected my whole life and I still feel sorry for myself.

At this time in my life I feel that it is too late or that I should have learned to let it go and not let it still bother me. Shouldn't I have learned this by now, through my life time to just let it go? Then why do I still feel like I do? I am suppose to be an adult at this time in my life.

[Ididitmyway]

I'd like to make the same request as springmetoday did-to join the group for those who were betrayed by their therapists. I couldn't find Syra's profile through which I can PM her. May be it's because I don't have 3 posts on the forums yet. Can someone help? Thanks.

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by Ididitmyway

I'd like to make the same request as springmetoday did-to join the group for those who were betrayed by their therapists. I couldn't find Syra's profile through which I can PM her. May be it's because I don't have 3 posts on the forums yet. Can someone help? Thanks.

Yes, that low number of posts may be it. Make a couple more.

[CrabbyAbby]

I too need the group for people who were betrayed by a therapist. Actually an LCSW, called a therapist by the court. Highly unethical person. Thank you. I will PM Syra when I have sufficient posts.

[DocJohn]

Just adding these resources here so we don't have another sticky thread...

Boundary Issues in Abusive Psychotherapy | TELL: Therapy Exploitation Link Line

[Swan61]

Thank you, Nicoleflynn.....i was having feelings about being too old too, and you solved that issue for me.

[dutserdnusim]

I had a therapist but she move to a new facility. Have trust issues when connecting to new ppl. But am at a point where I need help and my coping skills are not working...........HELP ME PLZ

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[ResaLock]

I'm actually just really fed up with this whole psychotherapy thing! I find it to be really disturbing. I am conflicted against myself with it.
The thing is, it is all traumatizing to me..and so far it has been nothing but damaging. So who does one go to when damaged and needs support and healing?
The fact is, it has been used against me, to only abuse me. I am abused by someone and called crazy by them. Telling me I need help.
It all started when I was a preteen I guess. I was first called retarted because I was a witness of child abuse of my sister. The system was used to silence me. Then I went through domestic violence and my past was used to silence me, and my own depression was used against me to silence me. I went to domestic violence counsel and I became damaged from that. My spouse used that against me and they suggested I see counsel. I already have and I became damaged from that.
I stayed away from this madness and severely traumatized. So I sought out a PTSD specialist...and that is quite damaging. So I tried to seek out a woman and another PTSD therapist and she sent me into a panic trigger attack, justifying my now messed up so called PTSD specialist...who is very uninsightful to PTSD and trauma.

So I just studied everything out there...Even the DSM4 I wanted to find the damage they are doing to me.

My speech is messed up, well in different ways for different reasons. ...but I realized some of my speech pattern is messed up from one hour sessions, squeezing my overwhelming cluttered mess into one hour sessions with people who don't care...and it goes no where. I feel like its like a transmission shop owner go to the Amish people and start telling about his stress with his work on transmissions.

When to leave therapy????

I have been going through this for about 12 years. I never got therapy. What I got is more stressful messes on top of others... and no one to talk to or get any support or comfort from. ..and their just more things I have problems with.

Which how can I even explain it all to even go to anyone...and if the next person is just as messed up. I just got another messed up added issue.

...and I realized...I don't believe in the DSM for some of it...that is not medical. I am judged wrong by therapists because their just trying to fit me under their false trendy labels. Saying the dumbest, unempthetic, insensitive things to me.

Just because we suffer...doesn't mean we are stupid. Usually the problem isn't because we do not know what is going on, have knowledge or how to help ourselves. Its just that we live in an ignorant world, where people who suffer are not allowed to have a say or choice, and we are suppressed by the counselors and governing ignorance of the world.

Forced to live continuously in this mess...telling us we are the ones who need help.
I think everyone needs help...Yea I am in a lot of pain and trauma. Many say we can help you, and all I get is another needle stuck in my wounds, asking me....DOES THAT HURT...YEA WELL YOU HAVE A WOUND!!! You must of done something wrong!!! You just have to accept you did this to yourself. Here have some drugs it will help make it all go away! ...because the problem is all in you and the drugs will take it all away and cure you.

[Faking sane]

Oh my god! I have to start some crazy, arbitrary, jump-through-hoops dance to try to get a therapist at the sliding-scale mental health clinic tomorrow, and you're scaring me to death! Last time I tried to get help, the therapist went home sick (would have been only our second visit), and nobody bothered to call me before I had my husband get off work early and drive me an hour to be there. So, yeah, I didn't go back. I was so hurt that, knowing I'm bad enough off to seek help (which was HUGE for me), they just blew me off! That was in 2004. Very nervous about tomorrow!

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[OneWorld]

Can someone tell me why it's not letting me post a new topic now? I've posted a handful and now I get a message saying I can't start any more topics?

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[OneWorld]

Nevermind!

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[Dyke]

Hello yes i have arrived. I experience dissociation, ptsd, anxiety, depression, ocd probably...fun

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[10SNE1]

I am new to Psych central and very interested in getting support and a better understanding of what I am feeling is rather abusive and/or betrayal from marriage counselor. I guess I am trying to understand if what I am experiencing is "bad therapy"