[Victoria'smom]

I've seen my T a total of 4x. I'm getting better but still having distorted thoughts. They're not nearly as bad as I get. He's treating it like I'm talking about blowing up the world even had me do a stand in safety plan. My x-T hardly reacted but tried to reason with me. I have never filled out a safety plan. It's Demeaning especially because it was so vague. I understand my file was scary. I don't know if this T can help me when my normal scares him. He did say that my file basically said I'm not legally sane when things get bad. How do I trust him if he's so easily scared? will he strugle with me or drop me when things are actually bad? If I do switch in the same small clinic? I have premission to call whenever or just show up.

[Crazy Hitch]

I think your T is being precautious. The degree to whether or not he is being over precautious and your old T under precautious I guess one could argue for a number of reasons. Your T is there for your wellbeing. A safety plan I guess makes it transparent for everyone involved as to what will occur when something happens so that everyone understands and there's no confusion. I don't think its a bad idea, personally.

However, I think that it really is important that you find a T that you are comfortable with otherwise it could hinder your therapy. I think this T has a different style to your old one so it might take some adjusting.

[A Red Panda]

Your old T had lots and lots of experience with you. Your new T doesn't. It's for both your safety and likely his career to have a safety plan in place for you. He doesn't know you yet just like you don't know him yet.

Has he actually said that you scare him? If he hasn't, then you're just putting thoughts into his head. It doesn't sound like he's scared of you by taking what you say seriously, or setting up a safety plan. That doesn't sound scared, it sounds cautious and proactive. He is taking the thoughts you share seriously and trying to help make sure that they don't occur. He has no way to know if you will or won't act on them.

He's taking your symptoms seriously, and if a plan keeps you out of the hospital, then that probably means he's taking your wishes seriously as well. If it's like my clinic, it also means that he or someone else (if he's not available) must speak to or see you if you call or come in.

I agree that it's demeaning, though, and wish those people would do a better job of doing their jobs in that regard.

[Victoria'smom]

He said he feels more comfortable with a safety plan as he worries I'll go non-verbal and hurt myself even thought that hasn't happened since march. Maybe it's because I don't see him until January 5th. Maybe he already thinks I'm psychotic. He did read most of my file and he did say it worries him but nothing in there suprized him. I feel like a little kid that got in trouble for being truthful. It was very genral all stuff that I already do. I'm 100% sure my file scared him. As it repetitive said that I have time that I don't understand that x will cause life threatening results. It repeated that I have only thoughts and have never hurt anyone and done minamel damage to myself.

I think it is a good thing that your therapist is showing a bit more concern. I've always had the impression that your therapists and pdocs were rather lackadaisical about the seriousness of your condition at times. You are, at times, in pretty bad shape, and that needs to be taken more seriously than it has been in the past.

[Polibeth]

It's good you have a T who wants a safety plan. It's in your best interest. Even though your ex-T knows you well, this T needs some time to know your intentions. This T is covering his *****. It's a good plan for you.

[A Red Panda]

You can't be 100% sure that he's "scared" if he hasn't said so. He's said he was worried; those are very, very, different emotions.

And the thing about never having done something to hurt someone... there's always a little "yet" that can be tacked on to that. You're frequently not very stable, and everyone can say that they don't have a history of doing X, until they then do X.

And hurting yourself - as it's something you have done in the past, and as recently as within the year, it's valid for him to be concerned and to want to have things set in place for you. It might very well be a great success for you to have gone that long, but he's taking strong precautions.

And if he wasn't surprised by your file, then to me, that shows that he isn't scared. If he wasn't surprised and found himself scared, then he would have referred you to someone else.

[Victoria'smom]

Has he actually said that you scare him? He used the word concerned. I told him it was to cover his ***. That's why he said he's more comfortable to have a safety plan.

I think it is a good thing that your therapist is showing a bit more concern. I kinda feel if he's so proactive when I'm out of a mood swing imagine.

he would have referred you to someone else. I don't think he can as its a clinic and my husband and son go to the other mental health therapists there. I don't qualify for the intensive program because I don't require CPS intervention. He's a new(ish) T my former T dealt with the "severe" mental health clients.

My husband wants off my safety plan. grrr...

Hate to say this, but your husband seems to be trying to sabotage your mental health progress. You mentioned on another thread how he didn't like you on your meds and it sounded like you were considering toying with your meds again. I hope you won't do that. Your latest posts on that thread show you still aren't terribly stable in your thinking.

[A Red Panda]

He's being proactive so that you'll both be ready for when you take a turn for the worse. Having it in place now, while you're most likely to think clearly, is why it's proactive - you'll be more likely to know and go with the plan the longer you know about it.

[Victoria'smom]

Hate to say this, but your husband seems to be trying to sabotage your mental health progress. You mentioned on another thread how he didn't like you on your meds and it sounded like you were considering toying with your meds again. I hope you won't do that. Your latest posts on that thread show you still aren't terribly stable in your thinking.

He's depressed and I'm generally apathetic/cold my new pdoc lowered my AP but it didn't help. new T said I'm flat (no idea what that means.) My husband never again wants to be part of my paranoia. So he wants at least the wording changed but would rather not be on a safety for me. We've had our fair share of push/pull control issues With the possibility of me feeling that he's trying to work with pdoc,T, to make me be fat or baker act me. He just doesn't want that he is teamed with them to stick in my head when unwell.