[Teddy:)]

If you asked your T for an extra session and they said "They will have a look and get back to you" how long would you wait for a response before feeling forgotten?

What does "I'll get back to you mean to you?

[Ellahmae]

I don't know. I know that I ask my T for an extra session and she lets me know within at most 2 hours. I think I'd feel forgotten if they didn't get back to me by the end of the day (non business just day). I take the "I'll get back to you" to mean they need to look at their schedule and possibly move someone or something and that could take time to see if they can get an opportunity for you to come in. Just what I think though - I could be wrong or very needy needing to hear back so soon.

[Teddy:)]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

I don't know. I know that I ask my T for an extra session and she lets me know within at most 2 hours. I think I'd feel forgotten if they didn't get back to me by the end of the day (non business just day). I take the "I'll get back to you" to mean they need to look at their schedule and possibly move someone or something and that could take time to see if they can get an opportunity for you to come in. Just what I think though - I could be wrong or very needy needing to hear back so soon.

Thanks

I do feel forgotten I feel like they don't care and are hoping that I will just forget about it. It really hurts. I feel like I finally had the courage to ask and it doesn't mean anything to them. I don't even want to extra session now

[Petra5ed]

Teddy, I get how you feel but wanted you to know I doubt it's personal. Therapists are good enough at talking that they could just say no, and wouldn't likely play games by pretending to look into it and then "forgetting" to get back with you. I do think though as a group they can be kind of flighty, ADD, and forgetful. I would say if you haven't heard back in a day or two, I figure they just forgot

[Ellahmae]

Originally Posted by Teddy:)

Thanks

I do feel forgotten I feel like they don't care and are hoping that I will just forget about it. It really hurts. I feel like I finally had the courage to ask and it doesn't mean anything to them. I don't even want to extra session now

I understand how you feel but I would almost bet they forgot because they forgot not because they don't care or don't want to see you. ((((teddy))))

[rainboots87]

I've had a T take several days to get back to me, but she only worked certain days of the week, so that wasn't unexpected. However, when she did get back to me, I totally broke down because she couldn't fit me in that week. It led to a really good discussion of my feelings though. Regardless of when you and your T connect again, I'd suggest discussing how you've been feeling- it might be really useful to your therapy.

If he forgot, it's because he forgot, nothing else. It isn't personal, just a busy T with a bad memory. Just call back and remind him.