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I just started seeing my psychologist about a month and a half ago. He has already established that I am "okay" and that my "problems are just uncomfortable but not holding me back." He has not helped me in the least. He isn't concerned about my health as even when I told him I often think someone, such as the devil, is after me, he didn't say much on the subject and never brought it up again. One time when we were discussing my OCD, he said that "my OCD was me, that when my mind says weird and bad things that they are caused by my anger towards something and that it's normal." I just stared at him, I couldn't believe it! I even told him that most of the time when my mind says weird things that nothing to make me mad has happened but he wouldn't budge. He won't believe me on anything such as when I constantly tell him that I do not feel a lot and that my thoughts are always confused and in a rush, that I'm suffering and I often want to just die. But since I'm "not inflicting harm upon myself, that my grades are pretty good, and that I'm not rude" I'm just daisies and dandilions. But forget about the delusions, 0 emotions to rapid mood swings, uncontrollable thinking and everything else: I'm honky dory because my psychologist thinks me so.
Am I in the right thinking that I need to find another psychologist and what do you think I should do? |
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Wise Elder
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First you may want to consider discussing this with your t before changing anything. Then, if you don't feel that you are getting the support you need from your current t than maybe you want to look around.
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I agree that it would be best to talk about this with him. As odd as it might sound to you, he may have been trying to be reassuring you that these things are okay and can be worked on.
See how he responds to your questions, your concerns, your feelings about this when you talk about it. Ask him directly what he means and to explain anything you don't feel you understand. Tell him how you feel (angry, frustrated, afraid, annoyed, etc). |
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sounds to me like you disagree with the psychologists assessment that your problems are just uncomfortable but aren't holding you back. either... they are more uncomfortable (distressing) to you than he appreciates or... you think that they are indeed holding you back.
i too am wondering whether he has been trying this approach in response to something. e.g., was this said in the context of your trying to get medication? was this said in the context of your trying to get hospitalisation? was this said in the context of your requesting more frequent sessions / some kind of time committment from him to work with you? what kind of qualifications does he have, do you know? i'm wondering if he is a councellor or a clinical psychologist. i'm also wondering if he is associated with something along the lines of university councelling services (where some of those have considerable pressure to only see clients for a limited number of sessions). sounds like his undermining your distress leads to your distress being amplified (i do the same) and leads to experiences / thoughts being amplified to justify your distress. that doesn't need to be the way this goes... sounds to me like his undermining your distress has resulted in your getting worse not better. > Am I in the right thinking that I need to find another psychologist. yes. if i were you i'd try and see someone who is more validating. |
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If I were in your shoes, I would be distressed and discouraged. In the past I would even have just accepted what was being told me even though nothing changed. I'm impressed that you are questioning and you do have every right to a 'second opinion.' I'm with Alexandra - I'd look for someone else.
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