Ready to get help but no clue where to look.

I live in a small town in northern California. Near San Joaquin County and Sacramento County. I've recently accepted that I seriously need professional help. My self care regime is going nowhere without it. I've made a lot of progress over the last 8 months but I've exhausted my resources and can slowly see myself reverting to old habits and falling into my own traps. I was initially diagnosed with severe anxiety about 6 years ago. In the last year I've been diagnosed with PTSD, major depressive disorder. Most recently an intake interview suggested borderline personality disorder. My boyfriend is studying social psychology in college and since meeting him I've used his textbooks and knowledge to attempt to understand myself and move forward. In these attempts I've remembered some serious traumas and learned a lot about my past. I try not to live in these memories but it's become dehabilitating. I relive my traumas on a more regular basis than in the past. Despite actively trying to control my thoughts and distract myself I find myself more and more often lost in my own pain unable to escape. There are a lot of things I don't discuss with my boyfriend anymore because I don't want to burden him and I feel it's not healthy to depend on him for support. He is suffering from PTSD among other things and it's not healthy to make my significant other my psychiatrist. I've sought professional help through my local behavioral/mental health office but due to where I live and how this county operates I feel uncomfortable returning. In a nutshell.. My small town doesn't do things like the rest of California. I've been severely traumatized here in the last year and can't even discuss with a medical professional what happened because I know whatever I discuss won't be kept confidential and may even be used to incriminate or blackmail myself or any of my aggressors. I l know establishing trust is essential to effective therapy and I tried my hardest to open up at my local office but immediately knew no one at this place was actually interested in helping or hearing me. I searched online for hours for a mental health doctor (psychiatrist or psychologist) near me that accepts medical. Nothing within 50 miles. I'm a single mother with a part time job as a waitress and medical health coverage. No chance of affording a private doctor. I've tried group therapy and church funded groups but never get my anxiety in check enough to communicate further than introducing myself. I think group therapy would be an important step for me but it can't be the first step. I need serious help and I don't know where to get it or how to pay for it. A trauma therapist would be a good start but the only local one is my boyfriends doctor and I think it's a conflict of interest for me to even consider seeing him. Im hoping someone here can recommend me a doctor who accepts medical or can work with me as far as a payment plan. Even an idea of where or how to look would be appreciated. All ideas are welcome and will be taken into serious consideration. I need help but to get it I have to find it and my resources are limited and hindered by my inability to cope with most social interaction.

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Can your boyfriend's doctor recommend someone for you? (I'm assuming the doctor is a psychiatrist?)

I know some therapists have Skype, which means you can speak to them away from your location. I hope you find the support you are looking for; don't give up.