after other threads around this subject, I thought I'd post my struggles with it too

The affects of growing up with never having had' 'enough' caring are life long.
Yes my adoptive mother gave me enough food. But anything else was in VERY short supply.
My adoptive mother herself lived life with that mindset too, but she just grabbed everything for herself and actively enjoyed others not having enough

Now, I've recently become a grandmother and my-oh-my has that triggered some young feelings within me.

One being having to share my Granddaughter with her other grandmother. I hate I feel this way. I spoke with T and she said you feel if the other grandmother has her, that takes-from-your-relationship with your grandchild.

Yes, that's the crux, the constant feel the world doesn't have enough for me. That I have to battle to keep what little I feel I have.
I asked T for the SOLUTION, LMAO! I'm always hopeful of that one pill to fix 'it', whatever 'it' is at any given moment. But T said her usual response - talking about it is all we can do. Sigh.

My kids have no adoring grandparents. I am hugely envious of other people I see around me whose parents and in laws are actively involved with their children, I feel like it adds so much to the kids lives and the kids turn out happier for the support the parents get and for being loved by more people. i think my enviousness is related to something a lot deeper really. Your grandchild is so so lucky to have grandparents. Congratulations on becoming one. I think I wil enjoy being one, if it happens to me.