I have recently joined twitter (mostly to promote my online poetry and keep up with writers news). I know that T1 is on twitter and he uses it infrequently (has done about 30 tweets in 3 years). His tweets are only open to confirmed followers.
I'm currently debating whether I should follow him. I am trying to analyse what I want from it, and what it means for me. I feel fairly sure he would confirm me, because while I was still seeing him he sent me an invitation to join his google circles (but I don't use google circles so I never responded)
I do want to retain a glimmer of contact with him and that is the primary motivation. In our termination session he said he would continue to read my online poetry, so I think it makes sense to be in communication with him that way. But the questions keep coming back to me: Will this make grieving for him harder? Am I ultimately looking for something unattainable? Are there other underlying motives? Would it be a devastating rejection if he didn't confirm me or follow me?
I'm not sure whether I'm overanalysing this or whether these are genuine problems that I could face.
Does anyone have experience staying in touch with an ex T? Has anybody used social media? How did it work for you?
Any thoughts or experiences would be really useful for me. Thanks

[stopdog]

I was friends with an ex therapist. It was like any other regular but not super close friendship. I don't know how to use twitter at all and I don't still have a facebook account (and rarely used it when I did) so I have no idea how such things work with social media.

Originally Posted by stopdog

I was friends with an ex therapist. It was like any other regular but not super close friendship. I don't know how to use twitter at all and I don't still have a facebook account (and rarely used it when I did) so I have no idea how such things work with social media.

Thanks, it's comforting in a way to know it can be done. I guess you haven't really had attachment issues as such? I don't know how that might complicate things for me.

It would be difficult for me to keep that foot in the door, if we, client/therapist had terminated becauof unresolved issues. It would stop me from moving forward.

Originally Posted by therapyworked4me

It would be difficult for me to keep that foot in the door, if we, client/therapist had terminated becauof unresolved issues. It would stop me from moving forward.

Thanks, that is my fear, but I feel as though I don't know myself well enough to know whether I would feel that way.

[feralkittymom]

IDK. My former T and I have kept in touch for many years, but we didn't end therapy prematurely, he's extremely stable, and I didn't have attachment issues. Given your ex-T's rather loose boundaries, your unresolved attachment, and that your therapy terminated, it feels like potential trouble to me. I'd at least give it a lot more time before initiating contact.

Originally Posted by feralkittymom

IDK. My former T and I have kept in touch for many years, but we didn't end therapy prematurely, he's extremely stable, and I didn't have attachment issues. Given your ex-T's rather loose boundaries, your unresolved attachment, and that your therapy terminated, it feels like potential trouble to me. I'd at least give it a lot more time before initiating contact.

Thanks. That is the niggling doubt in the back of my mind. Potentially it could be difficult. Then again it could be fine. I think I will have to work through the possible eventualities and how they would each affect me. I might take this issue to T and explore what it means for me.

[feralkittymom]

Sounds like a good plan. I would think it could bring up a lot of worthy issues to talk about with your current T--beyond the immediate question of whether or not to contact ex-T.