[tsdgdx]

so i'm really sorry since my only post on here has been me venting but i just need to post it.

my t is busy for 3 weeks and can't fit me in, and we had a session today and it felt so different. my t used to be so caring towards me. he would offer to call, and always would, in between sessions to make sure i'm okay. he used to constantly compliment me as well. and when we were together, he would always try and bring my confidence up.

but now it's different and i don't know if it's because he thinks i'm better and don't need so much attention, which should be a good thing, but i am so needy and getting really sad about it. our session today was weird, when i told him about something that was bothering me, he wasnt caring and nice like he usually is, he sort of mocked me and laughed, as if he thought i was joking and didn't need to hear anything nice.

and he usually walks me to the bus stop, which sounds ridiculous, but today he didn't, and just kinda told me he wasn't seeing me for 3 weeks and said bye, and it was just really awkward. usually he asks "are you okay, need me to walk you there?" and waves goodbye when i'm on it, smiling.

i'm not sure what's changed, but lately i feel like he is bored of me and doesn't want to help me as much.

and 3 weeks is a huge gap for me, i've never went not seen him for that amount of time. at the most it's been two weeks. and i remember before that week, he asked me if i'd be okay and offered to call me during it. this time, he didn't even act like it was a problem.

my t does this thing where he sort of treats me "regular", i think it's his way of trying to help me, and sometimes it works, because i am so shy and stuff, and he sort of ignores me when i moan and groan and whine, about silly things, in order to make me grow up, but sometimes i don't need that side of him, and i need him to care. which he used to. he used call me pet names as well, which sounds sad, but they cheered me up because i felt love. they were things like "sweetheart" and "lovely", and now he doesn't do that either. i just feel like he's changed and i'm feeling very lonely, especially as i can't tell him since it's going to be a while until i see him. i'm really needing to talk.

[LonesomeTonight]

Maybe he has something going on in his personal life that's making him more distant? Could you call him and ask him to call you back?

[anilam]

It'd be really hard to say what's going on even if we knew more about your RS...so take my post with more than a grain of salt.
The things you've mentioned sound nice and all, but they could lead to unhealthy dependence. IDK, how long and for what you are in therapy, could be just him helping you build a good enough rapport...
Either way the inevitable change should come more gradually, ideally from you not needing it anymore, than from T abruptly deciding he had enough.
Breaks are tough on many folks. I don't mind them that much but even I would be peeved at T announcing at the end of our session 3week break. I'd find that unprofessional, to say the least.

I'm really sorry things are so hard for you. 3 weeks is a long time. I think its most likely your t is not avoiding you but has some issue going on in his personal life.

It could also be that his supervisor has said something to him about his boundaries with you that has caused him to change tact.
I've said it before, but I really wish Ts would have it drummed into their heads in training that consistent boundaries are absolutely paramount for the client. You can't just go changing the boundaries without causing tremendous pain for the client.
I've been there, and I know how painful it is. I'm sorry you have a 3 week break before you see him, but I think you should raise with him how the boundary shift affected you. I hope he can offer a reassuring explanation

[ThisWayOut]

Just wondering, can you contact him between sessions for a phone check in? I'm unsure from your post if he is going to be out of the office, or just booked with work stuff. If he is just booked up, maybe there can be a check-in?

Also, I would suggest directly asking him about the change in behavior. There might be a simple explanation,and it will open the door to talking about how it all impacts you.

When I was seeng my old T I only ever contacted her twice between sessions, she discouraged contact and I was fine with that. If I was going through what you are going through, I would have contacted my T in this situation. I think this is one of those times when there may have been a mis connection between the two of you, I hope you can sort it.