[Yearning0723]

We actually did not talk about the awkward helpline situation yesterday, and it was funny that I didn't feel any tension about it...but she didn't bring it up, so neither did I. But I did tell her I was doing other consults and hated doing them and that I wanted to stay with her and I would miss her and she understood me really well and all that stuff...I think she was touched. She said she still had to think about it, but I KNOW that's where it's heading...maybe it's the right thing, but I will just miss her so, so much. I actually didn't even realize I was so attached to her until right now. Our relationship is great, and even she said that, but she just likened it to being a GP as opposed to a specialist and maybe right now I need a specialist, but it's not my fault, I didn't do anything wrong, etc.

And she said it was normal to feel grief about losing a relationship like this, and she would definitely take at least a few weeks to work through this with me if that's the decision we come to; she wouldn't just drop me right away. I felt reassured, sort of, but mostly I just really like her and appreciate her so much, and she has helped me, and I told her that (and was surprised at myself for being able to say that, since usually stuff like that is hard for me...). But I still think that's where this is heading and I'm just so sad about it...she has been such an important figure in my life and probably the only person in my life who I really trust implicitly, and I will miss her SO much.

I'm glad your session went well.

[NowhereUSA]

I haven't been following the whole story, why are you and her ending?

Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

I haven't been following the whole story, why are you and her ending?

I'll reply because the OP is offline.. hope no one minds

The whole story can be found in this thread: http://forums.psychcentral.com/psych...-yeah-bad.html

[Yearning0723]

Originally Posted by NowhereUSA

I haven't been following the whole story, why are you and her ending?

It's because she thinks she doesn't have the experience/qualifications/skills to help stabilize my anxiety and depression...I think it's really not fair to her to keep asking her to help me when she doesn't feel like she can, and she feels out of her depth, but I will just MISS her so much!!!

[Ambra]

Just stopped by to say I can feel your sadness. I am in a similar situation and just feel we are heading there too, for other reasons though. But I'm glad you had a good session.. Hugs to you.

[Yearning0723]

My previous T would call this "anticipatory nostalgia." I was literally crying today over this, and she hasn't even terminated with me yet and I'm seeing her tomorrow. I can't believe I fooled myself into thinking I wasn't attached to T...but I never want to get attached to another therapist ever ever EVER again.

Originally Posted by Yearning0723

My previous T would call this "anticipatory nostalgia." I was literally crying today over this, and she hasn't even terminated with me yet and I'm seeing her tomorrow. I can't believe I fooled myself into thinking I wasn't attached to T...but I never want to get attached to another therapist ever ever EVER again.

For some of us it has a way of sneaking up on us. I once asked my therapist if she would terminate me if she could not help me, because I knew I was going to be too much for her, and it would happen sooner or later v She said it was not a unilateral decision to be made by her. It would be made by the both of us. What if we don't agree? Then we'll keep plodding away.

I hope you and your therapist will be able to do the same. Good luck to the both of you.