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#1
May 07, 2015, 02:26 PM
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Trying to lighten up the mood with a positive post! Here are some of the meaningful things my therapist has said to me:
- Repeatedly stated that she loves working with me. - Told me that I'm likable and that she likes me. - Said that she feels a sense of comfort and ease in my presence - more so than with other patients. - Has said that the more she gets to know me, the more she understands me and likes me. - Sometimes she tells me I look lovely. I have been seeing her for 2.5 years and she's generally very guarded and very boundaried - this makes it even more special. How about your T? |
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#2
May 07, 2015, 02:32 PM
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My T is fairly new to the field and is pretty guarded and has solid boundaries so she really never says anything specific about me like that. One time I tried to get her to say something by asking her how she would describe me to someone else but she gave me a somewhat clinical answer and stated some facts about me.
I want her to tell me positive things she thinks about me but I kind of have attachment issues so I'm not sure it is in my best interest. I feel like I would have a stronger attachment to her if she said that stuff. I definitely would welcome it with open arms if she ever did say it though! |
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#3
May 07, 2015, 02:36 PM
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The woman has said she said some positive things but I don't remember any. She may have. If she did, I probably told her to stop unless she was willing to explain why she was saying those things - what was the therapeutic purpose - what was she trying to do at me in saying them. But if it is useful that they say such things to you, then good.
The best thing she ever said in general is that she would not touch me.
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#4
May 07, 2015, 02:38 PM
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My psychodynamic T has called me brave for various decisions I've made.
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#5
May 07, 2015, 03:29 PM
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Hmm
That I have an amazing internal life That I have an incredible openness to loving connection given my past abuse That I am brave That i am beautiful internally and externally ( I have serious body dysmorphia) That I have an adorable laugh That I work very hard at my therapy and am willing to do the hard stuff That in her yoga class when they are supposed to be releasing light to someone or something that she often thinks of me Those are some I feel comfortable sharing. My T can be a little gushy... |
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#6
May 07, 2015, 03:30 PM
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My therapist didn't say anything nice for over a year - I think it takes "guarded therapists" quite a bit to warm up!
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#7
May 07, 2015, 03:31 PM
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So lovely! The Yoga one is incredibly sweet!
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#8
May 07, 2015, 03:40 PM
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It also makes it either hilarious or deeply meaningful when she does say something mean. Like one day she came in and said " I have 5 teenagers ( 3 step kids 2 bio kids) and they are all a@@holes!" It cracked me up. Then another time she said she wished my mother was still alive so.she could kill her by driving arrows up her nose into her brain. ...that made me feel more cared about than a lot of the sweet stuff... |
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#9
May 07, 2015, 04:10 PM
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He calls me "Sweet MY NAME" and tells me the work we're doing is sacred. He says he's glad to be with me in these things. He's told me that I'm loveable.
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#10
May 07, 2015, 04:19 PM
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She says "I love you."
She tells me that the relationship she has with me is the most meaningful relationship she has had with a client in her career. She tells me I'm intelligent. She tells me I'm a gifted writer. She tells me I'm beautiful. She tells me that I'm easy to love. She tells me that she will be in my life forever, even after I end therapy. She tells me that I'm talented. She tells me that we connect on a deep level. She tells me that I have emotional intelligence and emotional depth. She often thanks me for always "showing up" and doing the work. Last edited by scorpiosis37; May 07, 2015 at 05:39 PM. |
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#11
May 07, 2015, 04:42 PM
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My T doesn't often say nice things about me. I don't ask her for that either. I do think that she wants me to feel good about myself without asking myself what others think of me or without whatever someone elses opinion is about me.
Also, if someone says something nice to me, I often forget that very soon. What I can remember she has said: She thought it was very good of me that I ran a marathon. In our last session she said I was doing well (therapy). A few weeks ago was saying how ugly and fat I think I am and she said that she doesn't think I am. |
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#12
May 07, 2015, 05:22 PM
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My (ex) T has said a bunch of nice things to me:
He told me I'm a wonderful person. He told me he's proud of me, for all the hard work I've done and what I've achieved. He told me that I'm really brave. He told me that I'm intelligent. He told me that I'm caring. He told me that I'm creative. He said we connect well and that he likes me. He said he was going to miss me. |
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#13
May 07, 2015, 06:06 PM
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Here are a few that really stick out in my mind.
I am a great Mom (really all that is important to me) She enjoys taking to me I am a very successful person despite my childhood (she makes sure to mention she doesn't mean financially even though we are fairly comfortable)
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#14
May 07, 2015, 06:27 PM
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-that I'm very kind
-that I'm thoughtful -that I never ask for too much -that she likes talking to me -that she'll never abanon me -that I'm smart -i'm funny and I have a good sense of humor -that I have a beautiful face (she wasn't hitting on me) -that she thinks about me all the time -that she looks at the thing I gave her in her office and thinks of me -people like me -the receptionists like me because I'm kind and polite -even if I get so well I don't need her, she'll still be in my life -she has faith in me -she believes me -she loves me ...but she hurt me anyway. So really it doesn't matter. Last edited by PinkFlamingo99; May 07, 2015 at 10:16 PM. |
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May 07, 2015, 06:40 PM
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T said he loved how my brain works that I made him laugh and I laughed at myself which was really healthy.
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May 07, 2015, 06:49 PM
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That I am the best __________ in the field I work in and that she admires me.
That I am pretty, sweet, kind, have a big heart, brave, a survivor, strong, very intelligent. |
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May 07, 2015, 06:50 PM
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that I am very talented (when I've shared my poetry with her)
that I've had a profound effect on her that I "know how to do this work" that we have a very deep connection that my psyche has a sense of humor (I liked this, I don't know why, lol) and often thanked me for doing the work and being so dedicated to doing the work there was more I know but these are the ones that stand out. |
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#18
May 07, 2015, 06:54 PM
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He tells me i'm incredibly intelligent and talented
He says he loves working with me because i like to ask questions and learn about psychology He says i'm a very fast learner and i have a good sense of self
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#19
May 07, 2015, 07:44 PM
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That she is proud of me.
-talented writer -creative -good mom -caring -brave -strong -thinks of me often -hardest working client she has |
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#20
May 07, 2015, 09:47 PM
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My T has told me:
I'm smart I'm a talented artist I have a gift for writing I'm a good photographer I'm funny She likes me very much I'm a great baker I don't look my age I'm a good mother and grandmother I'm honest I've made a lot of progress since we first started |
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#21
May 08, 2015, 06:39 AM
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He's said some nice things...I found it hard to listen ..don't think he knows me that well...n feel he says it just for the sake of it.
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May 08, 2015, 07:17 AM
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How many of you believe the nice things your T says???
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May 08, 2015, 07:22 AM
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I do. I know he wouldn't say them if he didn't mean them.
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May 08, 2015, 07:47 AM
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I don't see anything strange or unusual about a therapist saying nice things about their clients and I don't think there has to be any dishonesty or scheming involved. Ts are people, and people sometimes say nice things to one another. (Just like some of them sometimes say ill-considered things that are destructive for the client.)
FWIW, I have no idea how I would react to a compliment from my T. but I probably wouldn't believe any kind of general positive statement. I did believe him when he said he liked me, because he put that in context. I do trust my T to be honest, and I have always found him to be so. |
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#25
May 08, 2015, 07:51 AM
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I believe the kind things my therapist and pdoc say. They aren't ones to say things they don't mean. It's interesting that some of us can't take a compliment at face value without analyzing it or being cynical about its sincerity. I've had to learn to accept compliments graciously.
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