[Eleny]

I am thinking of changing my therapist but I'm nervous. I'm suspicious of her but this suspicion comes and goes. Sometimes I think she's the most wonderful person in the world, the next I worry she's manipulative and in it for the money.

I guess the reason for this is that I left therapy before due to financial issues. I couldn't afford to go anymore but instead of giving me a final session she just spoke to me on the phone and said I could come down for a final session when I had the money to do so. She was very cold on the phone and the following months were extremely hard as I felt really let down by her. Even though I decided to leave therapy, I felt I should've been given a proper ending. Things got really bad for me not long after this, and I saw two different Ts but did not click with either. I then returned to my current T once more but she could never fully explain why she did what she did. I told her it left me extremely upset but she put it down to a "miscommunication."

Anyway, recently I've been thinking of changing my T. Just because even though she is really good, sometimes I feel these suspicions creep in and it affects how I feel about therapy. She also disregards any of my money fears and tells me money is not the real reason behind it. Maybe I do have some resistance but money is an issue too. I just am not sure about her, my opinion changes alot.

Anyway, sorry for the rant! I'd appreciate any opinions you might have

[stopdog]

I believe in trying out several - therapist dating in a sense- rather than going steady with the first one I meet. Could you try out a few before deciding?

[Eleny]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I believe in trying out several - therapist dating in a sense- rather than going steady with the first one I meet. Could you try out a few before deciding?

Thanks, this sounds like a good idea! Have you tried many therapists?

[stopdog]

I saw over thirty before sticking with the two I see now. I sometimes still go check out others from time to time.

[Eleny]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I saw over thirty before sticking with the two I see now. I sometimes still go check out others from time to time.

Wow! I kind've just stuck with the first one I saw. The next two I saw weren't very good, and I think that worries me.

[divine1966]

You might want to check out other therapists. I know it is time consuming. I personally have no time to check out more than a few plus I think it is expensive ( I assume they all charge for the first session?). But you can maybe at least chat on the phone with few yo see if it is a good fit

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[stopdog]

Originally Posted by Eleny

Wow! I kind've just stuck with the first one I saw. The next two I saw weren't very good, and I think that worries me.

I weeded some out during the phone interview. I sort of enjpy interviewing them. I find it interesting to compare how they handle things.