For me, one phrase has been "Because you matter, as a person."

[unaluna]

A lot of them are baseball related quotes.

"When you come to a fork in the road, take it!" - Yogi Bera

T1 (getting teary): "I'm sad! I'm sad because you're sad."
That had a profound effect on me at the time. I don't think I've ever felt so cared for and understood.

[divine1966]

"You know you aren't going to die of it, do you?" In regards to my anxiety about finances, I am anxious to open bills and bank statements at times

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[stopdog]

"I thought you had softened on X" as an explanation to my anger after the woman broke her promise concerning X.

And also "I am not the enemy" - I found her use of "the" interesting. I would have thought "an" more accurate regardless of whether true or not.

[Tearinyourhand]

T told me I was brilliant and beautiful. it was unexpected, unsolicited and honest. I carry with me everyday.

My T uses the word 'important' with reference to my feelings.

[PinkFlamingo99]

"What, did you expect me to come to the hospital or something?" When I was sick and freaking out and wouldn't answer my phone call.

Funny how the bad stuff colors and erases the good.

"Art, you are not broken."

"You are not your feelings!"

There are more but these two jump out this morning.

That was a LONG time ago. Remember that. If someone tried to hurt you you now, you are an adult and would completely be able to protect yourself and react differently.

Very empowering and secure words that I often recall and use as very calming.

[PinkFlamingo99]

My new one said to me a few weeks ago "you need to stop should-ing all over yourself" and I keep thinking about that and laughing.

"Thank you for telling me."

"Wow, I didn't see that coming!" LOL

[LonesomeTonight]

The two I think of are from my marriage counselor:
"You can't control your feelings. Just what you do with them."
and just "It's OK" said in a very caring and reassuring voice. I play that in my head occasionally if I'm stressed (though of course it doesn't work when the source of the stress is him...)

[coolibrarian]

"If you feel it, it's real."

I can't think of any, is this a bad sign? I can think of things she has said, but not phrases.

[rainbow8]

At my last session T said to
me, right before we hugged at the end: "Rainbow, you're a good soul."

She's told me a number of times "you have choices."

I always remember this: "My feelings for you won't change no matter what you write in your emails."

"If holding hands is what that part needs to heal, then that's what we'll do."

"Nothing is TMI."

[musinglizzy]

I love you
I hate that you were hurt
Time to find your inner Teflon and let it slide off
I highly admire you
You're very important to me

[Virginia1991]

It has all been good things that I recall in my mind (that is good, right?)
Here are some of my favorites:
"It is ok" said repeatedly in a gentle, caring voice while looking into my eyes. I shook my head no but she just kept saying this.

"It is ok. You are just acknowledging your feelings and if you can see it as simply that---it is a good thing"

"Can I have a hug?" (Love that one)

"This is not unexpected in light of what you have been through"

"I will come sit by you when asked"

"Are you ok?" (So simple but the way she says it with such softness and care...)

[divine1966]

Mine sometimes says "you are so funny". Well I am. lol She also says " you are showing growth". In regards to me improving in certain areas.

And then she said couple of times how impressed she is with me never acting as a victim. I had some bad stuff happened to me but I truly never act or think as a victim so it was nice that she also noticed that.

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[Whiteroses02]

"Connection always trumps shame"

And she has mentioned many times that she considers me emotionally intelligent regarding my ability to read other people's emotions and how empathic I can be. It wasn't something that was new to me, I try very hard to be that kind of person, but if was a great validation from someone I really respect.

[phaset]

"Your body knows what to do". I love hearing her say that.

[ScarletPimpernel]

From ex-T:
Don't worry.
Can I have a hug?
I want you to feel loved and safe [with me].
My concern comes from a place of love.
I saw a butterfly today.
I have to kick you out now.

[VelvetRevolver]

Originally Posted by twistedangel00

"Thank you for telling me."

"Wow, I didn't see that coming!" LOL

I never know what to say when T says "Thank you for telling me". Does it feel awkward for you sometimes?

[VelvetRevolver]

I actually like it when T cusses.

[Chummy]

I can't remember much. Especially not positve things.
Not that long ago she said something like this: ''You are strong. You have been dealing with these feelings alone for so long and you haven't search relieve in alcohol, drugs, sh and you haven't tried to kill you''.
*which is maybe true, but I don't feel strong at all*

And last session she had to laugh about something I wrote about pdoc, because I kind of made it sounds like he's a *****. And that made me laugh. It still does when I think about it.