Had a misunderstanding happen with T Monday.
I was telling her about someone at work. I thought she said it wasn't important. Anyways I agreed with that at the time and she said I didn't mean it in that way, I said, but talking about other people is unimportant. T said, no that is just another way of letting me know what is going on for you in your life and most of the time you rarely talk about outside life.
I liked how she put it -its a way letting me know what us going on in your life - very good!

[gayleggg]

Sounds like she is a smart person.

[divine1966]

Very good. Other people are important because they are part of our life so they do play a role. Also good that you cleared out misunderstanding.

My t often asks about my outside life. I made a very serious hard commitment in finding new friends and connecting with old ones during the course of last year (I lost my friendships and my entire social circle because I lived with alcoholic for years, it was hard to keep friends as I was embarrassed).

So now she acts so excited when i tell her I go out with friends or something, she often asks who they are and what they do and if these are new friends. One time she literally clapped when I told her about some activity I was about to do.

Didn't mean to hijack your thread. I am just agreeing that it is important and your t is very good

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[Restin]

It definitely helped me open up to T by discussing other people in my outside life...not at all to gossip or sidetrack, but to feel T out about my own problem that was similar. I couldn't just come out and admit dependency on my T, but got used to discussing the subject by testing T about other people. Like, how would she treat someone else if they got dependent in therapy. T even knows I'm doing it, but it was still easier. So, your T is very wise to listen to your outside relations, as that helps her know you better and how to give you more considerate therapy.