How long does it take you to actually trust your T with the bad stuff? I'm seeing my new T for the third time tomorrow. And I have stuff going on that I should probably talk about...but I'm just not sure that I trust her... I can't decide how open I want to be. I'm having massive trust issues with everything/everyone currently as it is.

[AllHeart]

Everyone is different. You will feel it when the time is right for you.

[Restin]

Actually, I knew by my third session I could trust my T, but it took a much, much longer time for my deep, sensitive self to get up the courage to speak. As they say: "You can't push the river".

[ThisWayOut]

trust is really difficult for me. I certainly have not reached it by the third session with any of my therapists... maybe 8th? and even then it was touchy.
everyone is different thought, as allheart mentioned. it can take time, or it can be easy, but don't push yourself too hard if it will just make things worse...

I was seeing mine a long time and thought I could trust him. He wound up repeating my private details to another person who was not a counselor by any stretch. He broke every rule of ethics because he took a shine to some girl who never liked me and was dying to get the low-down on me to spread it around the hospital wrehere I work. I was destroyed...my reputation is completely ruined at work and my counselor could care less. That is what I learned about trusting a T.

I understand you may want to ask him/her questions but maybe you can ask him what you need to know as if you are asking about someone else in your life. Make up a third person like a relative or something who has this "problem" and you want to help them with it. It might work.

[divine1966]

I shared bad stuff in a first appointment. I want to therapy for that reason.

It did take few months to trust that she isn't judging. But I still shared right away

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About 3 and a half years i still dont completely trust them but i dont think i will ever completely trust anyone.