[ameliaxxx]

My T is on vacation right now for 5 weeks and I'm 1 week in. I was thinking one night and I want to give her something to show how much these last 5 years have meant to me. I wouldn't be alive if she wasn't there for me. I've opened up, slowly, but a lot of the years. And I'm leaving for college next year (2016) after I graduate. So I may not have regular visits anymore if I move. She said I could always see her though. And that she isn't going anywhere... Emails, visits on vacation etc.

Anyways, long story short, should I type out my entire story, because I haven't told her EVERYTHING. Or I haven't told her in detail. Like, I still am hiding things. If this is stupid, please me! I don't want to look like a fool or spend the time typing out my entire story, in great detail, just to be laughed at... This is a stupid question probably as well. Well that's it. Should I do it or not? would she think it's dumb?

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[Ellahmae]

In regards to the story. My T eats up, loves, and is overly joyed whenever I hand her something in written form about me. If you feel like you want to share that with her I'm sure she'd feel privileged to read it and have it.

If you want to do that, do it for yourself, not for someone else. Then, if you want to share parts of it, do so, but you don't have to. It isn't a stupid, and I don't think your therapist would find it dumb, but depending on length, if you choose to share it, you may need to pick out parts to share rather than the whole thing.

I think it sounds like a good idea, for several reasons. If you trust her and like her, it makes every kind of sense to let her know as much as possible - that's how she can help you, by really knowing you as well as possible. Writing it would also give you something to focus on while she is away, and that's also a good thing, I think. And I'm sure she would appreciate it very much. I don't see anything dumb about it at all.

[baseline]

Hi Amelia, I think its a great idea for both of you! It gives you a chance to recap all you have been through and learned from your experiences. For your T, she will know you in a way you want her to see you. I have been writing about my past. I told T when I'm done I would like to burn it. He asked if he might see it before I do. I thought that was cool he wanted to know more about me. Still working on it though! Good luck!!!

[musinglizzy]

Over 10 years ago, I did just this. I wrote out "my story." I did it for ME only....as a way to heal...and I symbolically burned it. I still saved the file on my computer. So when I started seeing a T last year, I decided to share it with her, so she had a general idea of who she was getting herself involved with. She was glad to be able to read that, so I'm glad I saved it. It's very long...I could write a book!

[ameliaxxx]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

In regards to the story. My T eats up, loves, and is overly joyed whenever I hand her something in written form about me. If you feel like you want to share that with her I'm sure she'd feel privileged to read it and have it.

Okay good thing someone had a good experience from it!

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[ameliaxxx]

Originally Posted by lolagrace

If you want to do that, do it for yourself, not for someone else. Then, if you want to share parts of it, do so, but you don't have to. It isn't a stupid, and I don't think your therapist would find it dumb, but depending on length, if you choose to share it, you may need to pick out parts to share rather than the whole thing.

I was just going to her the whole thing, and just tell her she can read, not read it, read a part of it, give it away, etc. I wasn't actually gonna directly read out of it, unless she wanted me to. Then I would

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[ameliaxxx]

Originally Posted by Mastodon

I think it sounds like a good idea, for several reasons. If you trust her and like her, it makes every kind of sense to let her know as much as possible - that's how she can help you, by really knowing you as well as possible. Writing it would also give you something to focus on while she is away, and that's also a good thing, I think. And I'm sure she would appreciate it very much. I don't see anything dumb about it at all.

I feel better that you said this! Thank you!

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[ameliaxxx]

Originally Posted by baseline

Hi Amelia, I think its a great idea for both of you! It gives you a chance to recap all you have been through and learned from your experiences. For your T, she will know you in a way you want her to see you. I have been writing about my past. I told T when I'm done I would like to burn it. He asked if he might see it before I do. I thought that was cool he wanted to know more about me. Still working on it though! Good luck!!!

Tell me when you share it with him, if you do. I want to know what he says. I think I'm gonna do it now. I have 4 weeks until she comes back from vacation. And I have parts of it done...

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[Soccer mom]

I think it's a good idea too. You know her better than we do. The reactions you fear are probably based more on your early childhood than how she has actually reacted to you.

When I have done this, my T. has encouraged me to read it or just say it. How I proceed depends on the difficulty. You also might use it as a therapy tool. I wrote 10 pages on what I wish my mom had given me. Now, we are going through what I read. Some I just tell and some I read word for word. It was therapeutic for me to write it and then again for me to share it with someone who knows what I've been through.

And, I agree, it will give you a "project" while she's gone. I get along much better in between when I give myself things to do.

[ameliaxxx]

Originally Posted by Soccer mom

I think it's a good idea too. You know her better than we do. The reactions you fear are probably based more on your early childhood than how she has actually reacted to you.


When I have done this, my T. has encouraged me to read it or just say it. How I proceed depends on the difficulty. You also might use it as a therapy tool. I wrote 10 pages on what I wish my mom had given me. Now, we are going through what I read. Some I just tell and some I read word for word. It was therapeutic for me to write it and then again for me to share it with someone who knows what I've been through.


And, I agree, it will give you a "project" while she's gone. I get along much better in between when I give myself things to do.

I'm gonna write it... I don't THINK she will think its dumb. She always seems to value what I give or say to her... And never makes me feel dumb about it. And she makes me feel comfortable with her. But you never know... She may reject me someday for one reason or another

And I want to give her something, and I think that's the biggest part of me I can give. The truth. I'm planning on just giving it to her typed, but I might read it aloud if she wants me to. It just takes me so long to read something because it takes forever and I feel embarrassed doing it a loud. I try to read aloud and the best way the message got across was her just reading it from the paper, and my hand writing it bad so this time I'm typing! Haha

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[Bill3]

Like, I still am hiding things.

This material would be excellent to read out loud to her.