[Coco3]

I think I do. And I don't think it's a good thing. I'm getting tired of thinking of him so much and missing him. I feel like I need a break. So I'm gonna try and leave PC for a while. Hopefully it will benefit to letting go of my ex T. I'll come back to let you know.

Its because I couldn't stop thinking about him that I found PC. Since Ive been on PC and knowing there are others who have it far worse than i do it has lessened my thinking of him.

[ThingWithFeathers]

Goodluck Coco. Stay safe!

[ThisWayOut]

It gives me an outlet for all the jumbled thoughts. When I find it too triggering, I take some time awaY.
good luck. Hope it helps you move through it all.

[iheartjacques]

Finding this has been good for me. To know it's not uncommon. And it's an outlet to dump my thoughts. Seeing as I only see him each fortnight.

I tend to be the other way round - I come here more when I can't get him out of my head. I feel it helps to express it to people who understand. Hope things get better for you

[RedSun]

When I was quite obsessive about my T, full on ET etc, it made it worse coming on here. It fuelled the obsession. I took a break from PC for other reasons, and the ET and obsessiveness faded, but I'm not sure those things are causily linked. It's fine now, but I visit other forums on the site and can get easily triggered in unhealthy ways. I'm a bit suggestible I guess....

[Ellahmae]

PC causes me to feel unsecure in my relationship with T. It doesn't do me much good and fuels doubts and causes trust issues but in a weird way I think it's helped our relationship grow stronger. Not sure. I do know that when I stay away from PC I feel more secure in the relationship than I do when I'm on here all the time.

[LonesomeTonight]

I find being on here helps me. I can talk to other people who "get it." It's definitely helped me deal with my transference issues. But I can certainly see why it would make you think more of your T since you're reading about other people's experiences with theirs.

No. It helps me realize how many horrible therapists there are and it helps me let go of him.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Originally Posted by Ellahmae

PC causes me to feel unsecure in my relationship with T. It doesn't do me much good and fuels doubts and causes trust issues but in a weird way I think it's helped our relationship grow stronger. Not sure. I do know that when I stay away from PC I feel more secure in the relationship than I do when I'm on here all the time.

Everything you said is what I am feeling. BUT PC has helped me so much. Talking to people that 'get it" and I have brought up boundaries with my T so many times due to the stuff I read on here. It has brought us closer and we both have a better understanding of what we both need/want.

[brillskep]

PC helps me to ask myself questions sometimes, but I don't think it makes me think of my therapist more. Therapy is a very important part of my life and then so is my therapist - it's a part that I think of often regardless. If at any time I feel like taking time off from thinking about it and him, I will certainly stay away from things like PC, psychotherapy books and articles, etc, and focus on very different hobbies instead.

Yeah, it does. [eta: er, sorry, I meant "yeah, I do", as a response to the question in the title.] PC is helpful because it puts me in my place and gives me some perspective, but the flip side is that I don't allow myself a respite from thinking about therapy.

I have learnt not to apply things I read on PC to my T relationship, and that really helps. I also actively stay away from threads that are destructive for me. Sometimes I relapse and then my therapy suffers from it, but on the whole I've got much better at knowing that what a random anonymous stranger on the Internet experiences has no bearing on what my T does or thinks.

[LindaLu]

I don't think more about my T as a result of PC. I do think more rationally about what to expect in therapy and can better appreciate my T's strengths and weaknesses.