Using what I learned in T

Does anyone else find themselves sounding like therapists outside of T? I frequent a site that has nothing to do with therapy, but I seem to attract people who come to me for support. Tonight I had a guy who I've known for a while in an artistic capacity coming to me because of a bereavement. I think I obviously wear my heart on my sleeve and even IRL people want to unload on me. Do you find experience in T makes people want to unload on you?

For me people have always "talked" to me, now after being in therapy I feel I can talk a little bit better back than I could before.

I do find myself saying things to friends who come to me for support, that t has said to me in the past. I "hear" her voice in my head sometimes too usually when I'm stressing out about something at work, I'll hear her say "Find your feet." Which is t-shorthand for "go back down in your body and ground yourself".

People, especially kids, teens and people with disabilities, always unload on me and confide in me but nothing to do with me being in therapy. I just have a certain way about me, certain type of personality plus I teach special Ed for many years, so that's why.

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I've tended to be someone that people talk to about their problems, I think mainly because I tend to be very nonjudgmental. And I try to just listen and empathize rather than give advice or solve their problems for them. There have been a few times lately where I've said something to my H, daughter, or someone else, and been like, "Oh, I totally sounded like my marriage counselor or my T right there--yikes!" Like recently I said to my H about something, "I wouldn't have been surprised if you'd been upset about that--and that would have been OK." The second part of that sentence was totally MC.

I sometimes try her phrases on students - I am always flabbergasted when they don't erupt at me in anger - I want to tell them I am just making **** up and I don't believe it - but it seems to make them happy. I truly don't know why because when she says it to me I get angry.

I have learned so much in therapy and I always hear my T's voice in my head when talking to someone. I am defiantly better at talking to people now that I have been in therapy.

My best friend has been, in her own words, "emotionally needy" the last week so she's been talking to me a lot. Because I am now hyper-aware of being self-critical and judgmental of myself, I notice it a lot with my friend. I don't try and play therapist with her but I will point out to her every time she is judging herself and remind her that it is not helpful.

She actually wants to be a therapist herself so I try to help her be more self-aware so she can do it with her clients in the future. However, I think it would be much more beneficial if she did some therapy on her own with an actual therapist...

I find myself casually advocating mindfulness meditation and some Dbt stuff to people online who come to me for support

I am more patient and compassionate with most people. I think therapy has made me more empathetic to people such as the witch at checkout, who is probably having a crappy day …or life.

I found the people who talk with me has changed. I don't suffer fools gladly or comfort the ignorant, nor enable. So many people talk with you than when something challenges Their believe system, they turn.

I don't find people seeking me out, but I do find myself using a lot of language I've learned in therapy when I talk to friends and coworkers about their problems. I also relate better about my own now that I'm working stuff out and feeling less shame about stuff in my own life.

I'm the friend that people always lean on for support. I don't thinks its because of therapy, I've always been that way. I think now, I'm more helpful. lol, I use more of the same phrases my t says, etc.

Yes! People always unload on me. I hate it. I listen to everyone else's problems and I have to pay for someone to listen to mine! It's one of the reasons I don't have friends. I never feel like an equal because the person talks about themselves instead of inquiring about me. My ex-T said it's my fault. She said I hide myself from people so they never get to know the real me. It's at least partially true

And I've become so good at therapy. One of the reasons T before ex-T terminated with me was because she said I was smarter than her. Ex-T was always saying I didn't need her because I already knew what she was going to say. And new T has already said that I "therapized" (yes we made up a word) myself.

Technically, I have already put in my required hours of therapy if I wanted to become a T