My t had to move overseas a few years ago to help with a family emergency. It was supposed to be a few months; she is still there. She still plans to move home and wants to very badly, but cant get free of multiple family obligations.
We normally talk on the phone/ skype 2-3 times a week for a couple hours at a time. If we only get to talk one during a week, we might talk 4+ hours.
Five weeks ago she had three more family emergencies in 3 days time.
Since then we have not been able to talk to her. She has sent 3 emails in 5 weeks to let me know what was going on. She still invites me to send emails to her and she reads them when she can.
I KNOW she is just way busy. I know its nothing against me. However, in my heart i feel so alone, adbandoned, and forgotten. I wish she could just make a few minutes in her day to give me a call. I know its more about the fact that she barely has time to breathe lately.
But i miss her so much, i am so overwhelmed, i need someone to talk to so bad.
I just need her. I pray and pray ever day that she will call, i have even asked other people to pray. But no phone call My heart aches so bad. I miss her so much and i need to talk so bad but she just cant right now

[Leah123]

Oh Starry, I am so sorry. I hope her troubles resolve smoothly and quickly and she is able to get back to a more normal schedule soon.

In the meantime, does she happen to have anyone else you could talk to if you just wanted to vent to a therapist? I did that a few times when my T wasn't available- it wasn't the same of course, but... helped some.

[BayBrony]

I'm so sorry. I hope she will find a way to call you soon. It can be so hard when you can't talk to your T. You can always talk to us on here but I know it is not the same. I admire how you and your T have made things work despite the difficult circumstances

[Mully]

Just wanted to say that I understand how tough it is. My T's husband passed away at the end of last year, and she was gone from Sept-Feb with zero contact. It was so hard! Hang in there, I hope she returns for you very soon.

[ThisWayOut]

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Oh Starry I'm so sorry, I hope she's able to call you soon!!!

[AllHeart]

Unless she specifically said no phone calls for now, I'd tell her that you really miss her and ask if she could find just a few minutes to connect via phone.

Allheart, i have done that several times actually.she says she is just too busy to even breathe right now.
Every day i keep hoping, maybe today she will call

[AllHeart]

Originally Posted by Starry_Night

Allheart, i have done that several times actually.she says she is just too busy to even breathe right now.
Every day i keep hoping, maybe today she will call

I am so sorry. Sending you hugs if you want them.

[divine1966]

So sorry. Would you consider seeing a different t for the time being?

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I probably wont hear from her today because shes having a holiday. Yes, i have considered a temporary t. I even tried one, who also specialized in DID, several sessions. However, he was nowhere near the caliber of my own therapist. I really dont want to try anyone else. T insists she WILL come home. Its just taking longer than she thought. We usually have really good, intense phone/ skype sessions. Its just these stupid emergencies going on in her family right now getting in the way
I miss her so much. She is coming to visit again in a few months and i cannot wait to see her, we always have so much fun visiting each other.

Got an email from her. Things are going very badly for her. She wants me to try to be patient. I think waiting 5 weeks is being patient already Looks like i wont hear from here any time soon

[Bill3]

One thing that occurs to me is that you state that your calls with her are long and intense. Perhaps she is thinking that she really cannot make that sort of commitment of time right now. So maybe if you are explicitly clear that the call will only last for (say) five minutes, maybe she will be able to look at things differently. Maybe.

i have asked if she can just call for five minutes. she still cant. i feel so bad for her, her life has been too hard for too long.

[Bill3]

I'm sorry, Starry. It sounds so hard to not be able to talk.

In her last email she said she is trying to hurry to work things out. I sure hope so. I feel so unimportant and forgotten.