[Yearning0723]

For some reason, I feel the urge to share a whole bunch of very personal things with T, mostly things I have never shared with anyone else in my life, including about the spanking situation, lies or evasions of the truth that I have told her and others, bad things I did when I was little (some of which I still do), and other things I just feel incredibly guilty about and have for many years. I think part of me wants to test whether she would actually be as nonjudgmental as she keeps saying she would be, but I think part of me genuinely believes she will be, and that she's safe to share with. I made a list of all these really personal, embarrassing, guilt inducing things and asked her if I could email it to her.

I'm sure she'll say yes...but I'm freaking out a bit right now...what if it actually does change her opinion of me, or what if she just doesn't know what to do with it or how to react? And also, I know that we are ending soon (taking a very long time at it, but I would say to give it a month or so), so sharing all this stuff with her might make me really not want to leave her. Although the flip side of that might be that I will regret not telling her these things in the future, and if I can share them with her and she can accept me, maybe someone else can too. And just for some reason I feel like I want to share. I have literally never had this feeling before.

[musinglizzy]

I just went through this myself. And I HAVE shared. It went fine. I don't understand why I had such a desire to all of a sudden...

[baseline]

I have aslo shared finally. It did make me more attached but I feel safe with him. My anxiety has a lot to do with not feeling safe. I also dread when we will stop our sessions. It's good you can share and just take it one session at a time, that is what i'm trying!

[ThisWayOut]

I've felt that pressure to share everything with a t I trusted, especially as we were ending. It felt like my "last chance" to get it out, because they were a safe person. It was also safe in that if t's opinion of me changed, it didn't matter anyway because I want going to be seeing that t for long anyway.

For what is worth, the t's I shared all the things with didn't change their opinion. Two actually remarked wishing I had shared earlier so their understanding was better...



Good luck.

[ShrinkPatient]

There are so many things that I thought I would never share with her and somehow I did end up sharing about half of them with her. She came across really supportive and she said the right things to make me feel understood.
I don't know if it changed her view or opinion of me. It could have because at times she seems.... less enthused, less affectionate, kind of distant. Sometimes I feel like she can't wait for session to finished. I think she may be tired of me. I know she finds me overwhelming.
There are other things I've never told her. One I didn't even really intend to keep secret. I was just putting it off because it was embarrassing. There is another thing I would never tell because I'm just not sure. If I did tell her she would probably feel really sorry for me, more than anything, I don't want that.
There are other things that kind of fall in between. I think I am done revealing secrets. I need to not stress her out.
I don't mean to make you more nervous. I think it's probably better to anticipate any possible outcome. Besides, I still think my therapist is very therapeuticly affective and I wouldn't trade her for anything.
Good luck with your T. I hope you get a lot out of the last few sessions. It dawned on me that if you do tell her, these last session's are likely to be really memorable for you.

I've found comfort in sharing everything. Also my understanding of them shifted to something that 'fit'.
I wouldn't share in a 'Hit & run' way. There's no point in that. Only share if you are willing to work with the material.