[alcibie1]

Hello everyone,

I've read a lot of threads here about terminating and now that I'm facing it, it just seems so overwhelming even though it's sort of my choice.

I've been seeing a counsellor for over 2 years. 2 months ago, before a summer break, we had quite an indepth talk about how it was all going. I had been very depressed for about a month and she was quite concerned about me that particular session (commented that I was "drifting off" mid sentence and finding it hard to focus). She said that in the two years the feelings just weren't happening and real life changes and that while she wasn't telling me we needed to finish I did need to have a think. It was a hard session but well timed in a way because over her break I saw a psychologist who recommended me for DBT and got me into a group. That's going to be starting soon.

I told my counsellor on her return and she was delighted for me. I too, like the sound of DBT and the psychologist who will be seeing me 1:1 for the duration. It's very targeted. It could be just what I need to make changes but I'm quite concerned about the work I was doing with the counsellor, although very slow, it was good to tease away at traumatic events in the past and gain some understanding. Will that just be stopped now?

Also scared of finishing with my counsellor. next week we'll decide on an end date in the next few weeks. She doesn't "do" gifts or anything like that and I'm trying to think how to finish, what to say. I can't show emotions or cry or anything so I'm worried she'll not know that I'm truly grateful to her and really sad to be leaving her...

Sorry this is so long xx

[gayleggg]

I think it is natural to be scared, after all, you've been seeing her for two years. I think once you get started in DBT you won't feel so scared.

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[musinglizzy]

You said it very well right here. Maybe write her a letter or a card to give her during your last session? That's what I'd do.

[iheartjacques]

I have no idea what I'll do. What do I say? Thank you for all your help? I hate goodbyes!

[alcibie1]

Thank you all; yes it's very surreal thinking of a last time of walking out of her room and saying goodbye. Part of me is tempted to just stop going or not go the last time but I know ultimately I want to honour the relationship and the work and finish properly. It's just at the moment when something happens, I think I want to tell her then think I better not because I better get used to not having her. I think she's just been such a support through very difficult times. Love the card idea

Thank you all xx