[bterrier]

Before I stopped seeing my ex-t last week (she's taking a break for an undetermined amount of time) she gave me an email and said she wanted me to do a weekly check in of how my life is going. I'm scared to contact her. I don't want to bother her for one or make a pest of myself but two what do I say. I don't feel comfortable telling her life isn't so good, that I feel like my world is caving in on me. I don't want to come across that I'm trying to get therapy from her while she is on a hiatus. I'm at a loss what to say to her If anything. We parted on good terms and she did say she would take me back as a client so I don't want to overstep the boundaries.

[Leah123]

I would do what some of us suggested in your last thread- write to her, but when you do, tell her you have decided to consider seeing her, and you'd like to set up an appointment when her hiatus ends at her new location.

Every sign she's given is that she values and cares for you as a client. I think it's your insecurity, not her disinterest that's the barrier here.

The worst she could say is that it is not possible, and that's already where you're at, not seeing her again, so I don't think there's much to lose though I know you feel scared.

The fact that she invited you to check in weekly is a very good sign.