[RACEKA]

I told my T a few weeks ago how much he means to me. I told him I see him as a parent figure. He doesn't remind me of anyone. I told him he makes me feel important and I feel safe when I'm with him. His voice comforts me. I think about him outside of therapy, in a way to help me think positive. I am really attached to him.

I have reason to believe that he thinks it's more than that. I don't love him, because that would be fantasy. I don't try for something I can't have. I like our relationship just the way it is.

Should I bring this up and tell him I don't have any more feelings for him than what I told him? or Should I just leave it alone until it/if it comes up? I don't have fantasies about him.

[Perna]

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RACEKA said:
I don't love him, because that would be fantasy.

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Hi, RACEKA. I don't know that one can be so sure about one's unconscious, fantasy life. It's like saying you won't dream about him. I'm wondering at how "clear" you're trying to draw the line now instead of seeing where everything takes you? Is something wrong with fantasy?

[RACEKA]

I know nothing can come between us except patient/T relationship.
If I think any more can come between us it's fantasy. Nothing wrong with fantasy. It's like being in love with a movie star. You can fantasy about all you want, but it won't happen. It's ok to fantasize.

I wouldn't want it go any further because that would ruin my transference. I really like the way it is.

[sunrise]

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RACEKA said:
I have reason to believe that he thinks it's more than that.

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This sounds kind of secretive. Can you discuss this out in the open? Do you have reason to believe this because he told you? It seems important to you that he really understand how you feel, so I think you should definitely discuss this with your therapist.