Hi everyone.
I am going to start college (sophomore year) as a new transfer at a local university. I am going to start dorming and as the days go on and the closer the move-in day gets I get more and more anxious. I talked about this with my therapist and he thinks dorming would be an amazing idea (i have my own dorm, single). I am so use to staying at home but he thinks its a good idea because my home environment is very toxic. I am just so nervous. I will still be seeing T as he is less then 1 mile from my dorm address so it is very easy to see him, plus I have a car on campus.
I am just scared that when I get extremely depressed and nobody would be in the room with me and things of that nature. I didn't have that at home but there was always background noises. T said he is very excited for me to move in, I am excited too but I have second thoughts. I don't want to commute because with my other school I made no friends.

I am just worried too about my parents knowing how much they pay for therapy. At home I would just take money, freely. 50 dollars a session. but now I would have to ask my parents every week, 4x a month, 50 a session= 200 a month for T. I don't want them picking up on that because thats how they stopped me from seeing my first T which was my favorite T.

Sorry for rambling. I am just overwhelmed with this college garbage and therapy mixed into it.
I know my school has a counseling center but it is for short-term therapy or drop-ins. I am use to working with my T and T and I are going to delve into deeper things next session and I don't want to cut that short since I move in at the end of August.

Have you considered getting a part-time job to pay for your therapy sessions? It is one more way to get you out of your dorm room, and it probably wouldn't require that many hours a week to cover that expense.

[atisketatasket]

I used to teach college. Students who lived in dorms even when they had a local option tended to do better academically in my experience. In your case, that sounds especially true. And in a dorm, you can't help but make friends. I am not a gregarious person at all, but back in college living in a dorm forced me to learn how to build friendships, some of whom are still with me.

Also yes on the part-time job. $50 can pretty quickly be earned in a week. And, again, when I taught, it was always the students who had to take some financial responsibility who did better academically (provided they weren't working full-time or multiple jobs), because they had a world outside the classroom and because they were forced to think about things they wouldn't otherwise.

I think your therapist is right to be excited about the changes this experience might bring about for you.

Originally Posted by lolagrace

Have you considered getting a part-time job to pay for your therapy sessions? It is one more way to get you out of your dorm room, and it probably wouldn't require that many hours a week to cover that expense.

Yes I have! I am looking at the on-campus jobs right now. They update frequently too.

Good. It is a good option and I really doesn't require a great number of hours a week. It will also add some extra structure and motivation to your life that is not a bad thing. Look for jobs near the campus also. On-campus jobs usually go to work-study students first, so unless you receive work-study financial aid, those may be harder to get.

[nottrustin]

I know going off to college can cause a lot of anxiety in the best case scenario . Never mind having to deal work the other issue. Living on campus is huge. While you have a single room you won't be alone. Having a faucet in college wet noticed lady year many kids leave their room for open. Kids are always going room to room to talk or holler across the hall.

[Bipolar Warrior]

My university offers mentoring to students who have been diagnosed with a mental disorder. The mentors they hire are all trained psychotherapists, and students get funding through the Disability Support Team. I think that's something every university should offer. Could there possibly be a similar programme at your college?