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Default Jan 02, 2020 at 02:09 AM
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It is striking to me how some (Jaffe, Torrey) who are taken by the public, and by themselves, as mental health experts, are unaware of what large part their own fears influence how they react to the "mentally ill". Awareness of their own emotions should be one of the top requirements for a mental health professional. Fear sends powerful chemicals through the system -- as it needs to in order to prepare to fight or flee -- but these can hijack awareness and interfere with thinking about the subject.

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Default Jan 05, 2020 at 08:56 PM
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They become therapists because they are effed up - but at least this guy admits he doesn't know what he is doing:
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Default Jan 09, 2020 at 10:04 AM
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Be very wary of any drug they prescribe you
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Default Jan 11, 2020 at 01:47 AM
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and this is why I think therapy is a scam. or one of the reasons:
Therapeutic Change According to the Wonderful Wizard of Oz | Psychology Today

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Default Jan 24, 2020 at 11:30 AM
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A "master list" of the idiotic things those people say:
This is a master list of common phrases I use or that I know others use as go-tos. Not all are relevant for everyone, but in my current role I provide a lot of education around parenting and related topics, so many are geared toward that as well. What would you add to the list? What would you change? [I AM LEAVING IN THE EVEN MORE IDIOTIC HAPPY FACE that was in the original]
What feelings are coming up for you as you talk about this? • What was that experience like for you? • What are you experiencing right now? • Can we agree that…? • What I’m hearing is… • Are you willing to…? • I wonder what it would be like if… • I’m confused… • What do you need in those moments? • How can I be helpful to you? • I am noticing that…is happening for you. Can you tell me more about that? • What do I need to know to be the most effective with you? • Where do you feel it? How do you want to deal with that? What have you tried? • What would that look like to you? • What would you have to do differently to make that happen? • I’m wondering how it feels to you to hear their feelings about the situation. • Have you had similar experiences? • What is going well right now? • What would you like me to do right now? • What is your role in the situation? • Can I offer some feedback about what I just saw? • Would you like to hear what I think? • Does that feel like something true to you? • What does that mean to you? • What would you like to focus on? • I’m curious about… • I’m wondering about… • If you knew what you know now, what would you have done instead? • Are there any considerations you would like me to be aware of? • I am… and you are… How is that for you? • My life is probably different from yours. I hope we can talk about that. • What new value or belief would you like to have instead? • Does that help get you where you want to be? • I want to get an idea of how this was for you. • Would you be comfortable sharing those things with me? • What would you like to do more of? • You may find some things you don’t like, but also some good stuff you didn’t know was there. • I wish I could give you an answer. • I’m wondering what you think about… • That’s a good question. What do you think about it? • I have an idea I would like to share with you. Would you be willing to hear it? • What need was met for you by doing that? • Have I heard you correctly? • Do you want to continue talking about that? • Do you need a break from this topic? • What is keeping you from being your best self? • How can I help you through this process? • What is the most powerful thing you could do for yourself right now? • What I hear you say is…but what you really mean is… • On the one hand…on the other hand… • I’m concerned that… • What would it take to bring you down to the next level? • What will you do if….happens? • What is the mission of the anger? How does it recruit you? What does the anger require of you? What happens when you meet its requirements? • Was there a time when anger wanted to take over and you resisted? How did you do it? • What do you think this tells me about your life? How do you think it affects my view of you? • Tell me more about the influence of… in your life. • What can you share with me about your background that will enable me to more fully understand you? • I know this is a hard topic and I want to provide space for you to talk about… • What do you think your other options are? • What is likely to happen if you choose to… • I am right here with you. • What would you like to do with that energy instead? • Can I pause you there for a second? • How do you think your response was helpful or unhelpful? • What is it like to not… and sit with the feelings? • What message did they receive when you did that? • If you were in their shoes, how might you feel? • I’m not sure I understand, are you saying…?
A master list of common phrases! : psychotherapy

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Default Apr 17, 2020 at 06:02 PM
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House of Cards by Robyn Dawes:
Dawes presents a strong argument, based on empirical research, that psychotherapy is largely a shill game. He argues that while studies have shown that empathetic therapy is often helpful to people in emotional distress, there is no evidence that licensed psychologists or psychiatrists are any better at performing therapy than minimally trained laypeople. Nor are psychologists or psychiatrists any better at predicting future behavior than the average person--a disturbing conclusion when one contemplates the influence such "experts" have on the U.S. judicial system.

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Default Aug 03, 2020 at 08:52 AM
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Yep, this makes sense to me. A little late for me, but. . .

https://elemental.medium.com/inside-...r-8be035d54770
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Default Aug 30, 2020 at 07:57 AM
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It's not an article but a thesis regarding idealising transference, a survey of clinicians views on it and how they handle it when it happens: https://scholarworks.smith.edu/cgi/v...context=theses.
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Default Oct 20, 2020 at 04:39 AM
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Article On Teletherapy and all that is wrong with it.

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Default Oct 23, 2020 at 07:08 PM
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how to bring up psychedelic assisted therapy with your T:

How to Talk to Your Therapist About Psychedelics | Psychology Today

i've been using mdma assisted therapy for over the past year, but i'm doing it 'solo' without the help of a therapist (hubby is my trusted sitter). my ex-T, who i've remained in contact with since ending a few years ago has been quite keen and open to hearing my stories about my mdma assisted sessions and ironically enough, he is now pursuing getting training to become a psychedelic therapist himself.

i often encounter others online in regards to bringing up the topic of psychedelics therapy to their current therapist, and this is a decent article on how to help break the ice.
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“A Criminal Mind”

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A Criminal Mind
“For 40 years, Joel Dreyer was a respected psychiatrist who oversaw a clinic for troubled children, belonged to an exclusive country club, and doted on his four daughters and nine grandchildren. Then, suddenly, he became a major drug dealer. Why?”
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ooh, that does look interesting! thanks for posting it 😊
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He was my Pdoc before Abusive PDoc.
I’ve seen my fair share of bad therapists.

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When all looks bleak, hopebuilding strategies offer a lifeline | Psyche Ideas

How Hope Building Strategies help with suicidal thinking. Not exactly about therapy but still thought it was a worthwhile read.

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How Hope Building Strategies help with suicidal thinking. Not exactly about therapy but still thought it was a worthwhile read.

Thank you for posting this, it’s a very interesting strategy

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