[atisketatasket]

The other thread brought this to mind.

Does your therapist curse in session? Not at the client (run if they do), just in session.

One of mine doesn't do it often but does do it to make a point or emphasize something or get me to pay attention.

If your therapist did curse, would it bother you?

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[Ellahmae]

My T curses but it's never at me or at anything I say, usually at the end when she's trying to ground me she'll say something funny or tell a story and sometimes it comes with a curse word. I think it's hilarious when she swears.

[Leah123]

When I began therapy, I was dealing with PTSD more and my anger level was extraordinarily high. I'd gone from never, ever swearing, to periods of cursing like a sailor, especially in therapy.

I felt a little exposed, talking like that, but my therapist picked up the occasional habit of occasionally swearing or mirroring what I said, and it helped me feel a little more comfortable.

She doesn't swear in general, but she has referred to my mother as an evil *****/witch, and even said after she acted a little out of sorts once, in a light-hearted way, that she could be a real *****!

She let out an "oh ****" when hearing about how my dog got sick the other day too, so.... it's rare, but there.

I'm glad for that, makes her relatable, while being so very uncommon that it doesn't detract from my perception of her intelligence or vocabulary.

[stopdog]

They both have used swear words I think. I don't pay a lot of attention to them when I think they are doing something for emphasis at me.

[RedSun]

Mine does, she did it first. The F word! Haha! I swear all the ****ing time, so it was good cos it gave me permission. She doesn't swear loads, but maybe once a session...
Don't know what a client would have done if they didn't like swearing...find another T maybe she and I both blaspheme lots too, it's not really noted here but my cousin said it really raises eyebrows in conservative areas in US?

T1 did, T2 doesn't really but I think he said c**p once after I had said it first.
T1 used to swear a bit like me just in general conversation for emphasis. I remember finding it weird he would sometimes say what sounded like "fack" I kinda thought he was trying to make it sound slightly less sweary just in case it seemed out of place.

[cherrykix]

My T only curses if I've cursed a lot in session, to empathize with me. I don't mind, it actually makes her seem more relatable to me!

[WrkNPrgress]

Our couples counselor curses on occasion, sometimes when she's playfully imitating her own bad behavior (as an example of how we all get mad, frustrated, etc.) sometimes when she's emphasizing a point, with aplogies (I'm sorry, but that's ****ed up!)

My personal T doesn't curse much unless she's mirroring my own. Once she said something about bing "pissed off" at a circumstance similar to mine. Otherwise she doesn't lend much of her own emotion or 'color' very often unless it's to validate my own. She has no problem mirroring my own cursing ("Yeah, that's ****ed up! **** that!") to encourage that expression of anger when I need it. It's kinda funny in those moments. We just sit there saying 'yeah **** ____ him/her/that" back and forth.

[musinglizzy]

Mine will. Not often, but my language can make a sailor blush at times, so I think she took the lead from me. I kinda think that's how she is....not a swearing person unless the client is. She uses it for emphasis also, like last week she was talking about someone in my life and said "she has no f***ing CLUE."

[junkDNA]

we both curse...me more than him

[Salmon77]

Generally he'll use whatever terms I use, which are sometimes vulgar.

[AncientMelody]

Just once. if she did it regularly or even "sometimes" I think it would put me off. But in the once case, it worked

[nottrustin]

I believe she said oh S*@% once when I was describing something awful...I am definitely not fond of listening to people curse a lot however, a little doesn't bother me...just not my thing

[Chummy]

I haven't heard my T cursing. I wouldn't mind if she did, though is does depend on why she curse. Maybe she doesn't curse, because I don't curse in sessions? But I don't curse because she doens't curse and I don't want to look like a ***** or something.

I'm not someone who swears often in the presence of other people. I'm more of a cusser when I stub my toe kind of person. So, I rarely swear in session because it is just not in my character and I would be put off by a therapist who swears except on the rarest of occasions.

[precaryous]

My current T does not but I have had a Pdoc who did. He loved the fbomb. He wouldn't be cursing at me, it would be in his normal conversation.

[doyoutrustme]

Mine does. Not a lot, just enough for it to be funny.

[Pennster]

Mine curses sometimes. It's just part of normal discourse for us.

[ScarletPimpernel]

We both curse. Not at each other. But we only do if it fits what we're talking about. I think T has cursed 3 times in 4.5 months? I have cursed about the same. I'm glad she's okay with it. Sometimes it's the best way to express something. But it does surprise me everytime she dies curse.

[divine1966]

No . never

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[spring2014]

my therapist doesn't curse in session w me she knows im sensitive to cursing cuz I grew up in a family that curses all the time .

[ManOfConstantSorrow]

Only when they have been drinking. I never pay until the end of the session or it starts ten minutes late after they have been next door to Tesco Express to blow the fee on more vodka. Just kidding.

[Sarah1985]

Mine cusses sometimes and I love it! lt's usually to emphasize how something is bull **** or to say one of my abusers is an asshole, etc, or sometimes she just does it. I feel more connected when she does, like she's a real person not all formal, etc.

The ex therapist didn't. He was a holier than thou type. The other two have and it doesn't bother me at all. It seems more real. I don't curse myself, but I don't judge people who do.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

My T has never cussed at me but when I was telling her what my parents did to me during my childhood she got really angry and had a few choice cuss words. I loved it. Its so rare to hear her use those words and they were not directed at me.