[Cinnamon_Stick]

I had a rough session last week and I was on the verge of crying but I held it in. I feel like I can't let her see me like that. I also have a fear of people seeing me cry. I don't even like to cry in-front of my husband.

Is crying a natural thing to do in therapy? How can I be more comfortable with it? Why do I have this fear of my T seeing me in that state?

(My T and I have talked about crying before)

[stopdog]

I have never cried in front of one of them, but I can't say I ever had it come up really.
Do you want to do it or are you just wondering if it is okay not to do it?

I've never cried in front of my T, either. Been close but have never just let it go. I wish I could, but I don't like to cry in front of anyone, and I don't know how to become comfortable enough to let it happen.

[kaliope]

i dont think it has anything to do with your t. you say you cant cry in front of anybody including your husband.........just because you are in a therapy session with a therapist doesnt mean your core being is going to change and you will be able to cry. working on being able to express your feeling in general, not just in therapy i think is the issue.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Originally Posted by kaliope

i dont think it has anything to do with your t. you say you cant cry in front of anybody including your husband.........just because you are in a therapy session with a therapist doesnt mean your core being is going to change and you will be able to cry. working on being able to express your feeling in general, not just in therapy i think is the issue.

You are right, I have a hard time expressing my feelings. I feel like if I cry, she will see me as weak or a basket case. I am afraid of what she would be thinking.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Originally Posted by stopdog

I have never cried in front of one of them, but I can't say I ever had it come up really.
Do you want to do it or are you just wondering if it is okay not to do it?

Part of me wants to, and the other part doesn't want to.

[AuroraBorealis75]

I cry at all the wrong and inappropriate moments, but then when crying would actually be appropriate and help communicate the depth of what I am feeling, the tears dry right up.

[ruh roh]

I don't think crying or not crying is much of a choice for some of us. I cry easily and often, and I hate it. If I had my way, I would rarely or never cry.

[atisketatasket]

I have shown a distressing tendency lately to get weepy in front of both of them, which I hate. I would hate full-fledged crying even more. Fortunately, I rarely do that kind of crying - I've never found it the relief people say it is. Weepy will have to do.

[Chummy]

I have cried in front of my T. It's not something I choose to do. If I feel bad or we're talking about something that's hard for me, I can get tears and often I can't really stop them. I don't feel at ease with crying in front of T. I always hide behind my hands.
I haven't cried in front of previous T's.

[Victoria'smom]

I've been teary-eyed but have never cried.

[RedSun]

Cinnamon I'm same as you, I don't cry in front of anyone if I can help it, and I don't cry much anyway, maybe once or twice a year.
I also think it's an issue. I feel like it might be brewing too and I'm worried that I will cry in therapy and not be able to stop, and I'll lose control or look stupid or something.

[Cinnamon_Stick]

Originally Posted by Red75

Cinnamon I'm same as you, I don't cry in front of anyone if I can help it, and I don't cry much anyway, maybe once or twice a year.
I also think it's an issue. I feel like it might be brewing too and I'm worried that I will cry in therapy and not be able to stop, and I'll lose control or look stupid or something.

What you said here is the same with me except I cry alone often. I think I have an ugly cry. I think my biggest fear is crying in therapy and not being able to stop and then when my hour is up I will have to leave in a bad mental state.