[WinterRose]

I'm really big on wanting my pdoc to think well of me and hold me in positive regard. I read this quote and then I said, 'That's why!'

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"We might have one being in our life who is a model of unconditional love, so that we don't fear rejection if we're truly honest with this person or if we don't present ourselves in a certain way. We have enormous respect for this person, who means safety and maybe clarity - not mushiness or a phony veneer or an inability to look at difficult and painful things. This person may perceive the difficulty and pain in us, but there is the feeling that he or she views them alongside us, rather than from across some enormous gulf of separation. That is really the essence of a loving heart - the understanding of our nonseparateness." ~ Sharon Salzberg from "The Power of Loving-Kindness" in Handbook for the Heart

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Doesn't that just sound like what therapy is all about?

[DePressMe]

Excellent! I like it a lot! Fits perfectly.

[Nikki2000]

Hi WinterRose

i love this quote! it really does sound like what therapy should be about...

i have been trying to find this book on Amazon, but i cant find that title... is the book called "Handbook for the Heart"?

i have found some by that author, "LovingKindness: The Revolutionary Art of Happiness" and "Heart as Wide as the World"...

any details you could give me would be greatly appreciated.

Nikki x

Yes it does sound like the therepeutic relationhip, dioesn't it?

Although separateness is very real, there is also connectedness. Separateness makes us each inidividual, 'selfs', unique... yet connectedness means we all seek similar things like love and acceptance.

Another author who writes about similar things is Pema Chodron. "When Things Fall Apart" and "The Wisdonm of No Escape" are a couple that I have and enjoy. She writes in a calm peaceful and thoughtful way. It's very relaxing to read her words.

You can find her on Amazon or at www.shambhala.com

[WinterRose]

Here is information on the book. It is a collection of essays.

Handbook for the heart : original writings on love / edited by Richard Carlson and Benjamin Shield ; foreword by John Gray. Boston, MA : Little, Brown and Co., 1996.

[Nikki2000]

thank you for the info, i think i might get that book... and thank you Echoes, will check out that website too...