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Oct 14, 2015, 06:54 PM
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I am a terrible liar/avoider/deflector whatever you want to call it. It does matter how neutral I try to stay my T always picks up on my body language and knows when I am trying to avoid a topic. I do not try to avoid many because I truly want to move forward but sometimes I just need to process an idea first before I am ready to go there...or I do want to go there but he sees too strong of a reaction and backs off because he wants me to take this slowly...I would rather just rip off the bandage and go. This week my p-doc asked if I was suicidal, I said no (which is true) but apparently my body language said yes because he gave the "hmmm" look and asked me again. I again said no and he reluctantly moved on. I thought about this later and realized that even though my answer was an honest answer I am not suicidal, but only because I would never do that to my kids. I am all they have and they need me to be here for them. So my answer was honest but my body language was more revealing.... I bet that question comes again at my next visit. Now if he asked if I ever dream of packing up and moving across the country and not telling anyone where I went and starting a new life (with my kids of course) then my answer would have been absolutely.....everyday!
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Oct 15, 2015, 02:45 AM
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Denying (even if a denial is the truth) only sets off a T's spidey senses. You can throw them a bone and say "No, I'm not suicidal but I feel pretty crappy."
Hide, and they will seek! |
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Oct 15, 2015, 07:21 AM
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Oct 15, 2015, 07:42 AM
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Yes as growlycat says therapists have trained for years/decades to zero-in on all those clues/details of body language, voice, etc.
(and also they have all been bitten by those radioactive spiders!   )
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Oct 15, 2015, 07:58 AM
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Happens to me too! I've been seeing my T for a year and I'm SO shy with people I dont know too well so it takes me a long time to build trust. Anyways, like you, I'm a pretty bad liar and for some reason I smile when I'm lying ( I have no clue why ). So for the past few sessions we've been talking about some pretty deep and emotional things that I hate to even think about. Yesterday I had a session and my T asked me a question like "does this bring back any memories of any personal events?" and I said not really.. ( but it did 100% ). She stopped and said really? are you sure about that ? then I laughed for some reason and she knew I was lying to her so I eventually just looked away and talked about it because I can't look at her when speaking about certain things.
I have another session in a few days and I'm pretty nervous about that considering how emotional yesterday was. It's also hard for me to cry so I laugh at that too. I dont know why. |
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Oct 15, 2015, 08:33 AM
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So you are truly not suicidal to which you verbally express, and yet your body language indicates to your pdoc that you are suicidal? I wonder why that is. Maybe your T is a bad "translator?"
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Oct 15, 2015, 09:07 AM
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Oct 15, 2015, 10:12 AM
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Oct 15, 2015, 08:56 PM
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