[iheartjacques]

Mine is going to piss off for 8 weeks again last he did last year. The two xmases before that he only took the two weeks off over Xmas and new year. Last year I was ready to jump out a window after 3 weeks. When I finally saw him I was pissed because he didn't have a note I needed ready for work, got the dates and my name wrong.

[stopdog]

Are you seeing the other therapist still? Could you arrange to meet with another one?
The first one and I will not meet for 6-7 weeks and the second one And I will not meet for 3-4 weeks. I just do other things.

8 weeks? Wow, that is a long time. Like stopdog said, can you arrange to meet with another T until your T returns?

My t had to move to another country four years ago. We see each other about once every year. It is unbearably hard at times. We still skype and talk on the phone and text,but its not the same as in person. I read a lot. My job also takes up a lot of my time. Its just hard when t is gone, i know.

[Argonautomobile]

Same thing I do between sessions as it is---try to keep busy, live my life, engage in hobbies etc. I think Stopdog has a good point about seeing another T in the interim. Even if you don't necessarily see him/her, it can be wonderful and comforting to know you have the option. Good luck!

[Pennster]

One of the things I did was to find a yoga class at the same time as my session. I also do a lot of recorded meditations that you can find on the Internet, which I have found useful. One thing I've done as well is make a little list of all the things I can do every day to take care of myself, and try to check off as many of those as possible every day. If I start to feel down I can have a hard time remembering what might help, so it's helpful to have a reminder of things I can do.

[iheartjacques]

Thanks for the suggestions. Yes, hoping to see the other one during that time.
I guess it bothers me that I don't get a place to dump my crap and talk rubbish about other people or situations without it hurting anyone else. And I have to admit that even though he drives me nuts, he can be good at talking me down from my tree.

[junkDNA]

my T has never been gone for that long... i would prob be upset. when he leaves i worry about him dying a lot. like.. a lot.

[iheartjacques]

Yes, in my first year I used to worry about him dying or being badly hurt or leaving!

[iheartjacques]

I said goodbye to him today for 8 weeks. Thankfully I get to see the other one next month.
He asked if there was something I wanted to talk about today. Yes but I didn't want to bring up anything then put it on hold for a couple of months.
So it was a review of a bumpy year and my goals for next year. I think my biggest one will be my weight. I have a dietician plan and an exercise physiologist plan. The biggest battle is my mind. I associate being slim with when I was raped. And hubby constantly accusing me of cheating on him. I am doing this for my physical and mental health, and comfort. It is uncomfortable being obese. I don't want to end up like my parents. I started making some changes and losing a bit of weight . But it's like I freeze or self-sabotage and I need to break through that.